I'm the only one!!

obiwan · **Posted:** 11 May 2011, 02:19

Right now I'm the only person in my family who is still a virgin.

I'm also the only one who hasn't had a real life relationship with the opposite sex.

I consider myself the lone sheep or the ugly duckling.

whitewolf0079 · **Posted:** 12 May 2011, 14:31

It's cool, I had a friend who was a virgin till he was 22, then went on a tear, I think he is up to 14 or 15 and he's 27 and there are three relalationships thrown in there...Never to late.

foxyproxy · **Posted:** 12 May 2011, 17:21

I'm a virgin of 23. I've only the one sister who's 21, I suspect she's not a virgin, but I can't be 100% sure and have never asked her outright.

Onkel Willie · **Posted:** 12 May 2011, 19:32

SpaceRunaway wrote:

I'm the only person in my family who was still a virgin past age 21(I'm 22).All of my siblings have either been laid or been in relationships with the opposite sex

My older brother,34,is married with 2 kids

My older sister,31,is married and is expecting a child this summer

My other older brother,25,is in a relationship(not married) and has a little girl

My younger brother,18,even though he is single he has sex with women regularly and last year he had a "friends with benefits" thing going on with two girls at once

My other younger brother,16,has just recently entered his first relationship

My younger sister,16,has had several boyfriends

This makes me the only one of my parent's kids to have never been in a relationship.I am frequently the butt of everyone's jokes because of this.Even though my younger (the 16 yr old) brother is still a virgin its very likely that he will have sex before I do.I'm not jealous of any of them though,I'm happy they don't have to be lonely like me.Is anyone here in the same situation?

Must be very frustrating. Maybe it's time to go to a prostitute and get it over with (of course if prostitution is legal where you're from). Have you ever tried to talk about it to any of your relatives, and if so what was their response? Also, have any of them tried to help you (maybe as your wingman for your brothers, or your sisters bringing you ino their social circles)?

simon · **Posted:** 13 May 2011, 00:41

Yes, I am too, although I'm an only child so out of my immediate family I was always the only virgin!

It wasn't an issue until recently and now my mother has started trying to get me to talk to girls more. Perhaps she's worried because I'm her only chance of grandchildren. It's quite embarassing and I always try and change the topic whenever she brings it up.

whitewolf0079 · **Posted:** 13 May 2011, 03:29

SpaceRunaway wrote:

Onkel Willie,thank you for response.And to answer your question,me and my siblings are totally different people and not only will I be out of place in their social circle but there is too much of an age difference.Even if they were willing to help me(which they aren't)I doubt I'd gain much from it.My younger brother and sister are 16,my older brothers are raising a family and can't be bothered with me,my older sister is pregnant and my younger brother(18)has no interest in helping me.So them helping my with my problem....not gonna happen.

Also the subject of me being a virgin always comes up,even if I don't bring it up.Before I turned 18 no one really made a big deal out of it and just gave me cliche dating advice but after I turned 18 and missed out on senior prom,people started to think I was wierd.I remember one particular incident that happened last year on july 4th.It was a family gathering with lots of people.One of my cousins came and brought a friend who I thought was kind of cute,I checked her out the whole evening.Later on my cousin came and talked to me and as usual she asked if I had a girlfriend.I asked her if she would set me up with her friend,she laughed and said she was out of my league then she said "what kind of friend would I be if I did that to her?".I don't know if dhe was kidding or not but I was offended nonetheless.

That's pretty much the whole situation,sorry for the lengthy message.And as for prostitutes,I would very much prefer a loving, long-term relationship but if I can't get that,I would be more than willing to settle for sex, from either a girl I meet in a bar/club or a prostitute(it will most likely end up being the latter).Its pretty much my only option.

Yeah know what? I may be crazy, but I think maybe you should just bang a Pro...I mean someone told me once "ya gotta just bang out those hoodrats sometimes"...meaning in polite terms...hey, just do the deed and stop putting pressure on yourself to find the one...The first time you have sex does not need to your be all end all...think of it as just another act....sex can just be sex..but when you meet someone special...it will be better...think of it like pizza...

jeje · **Posted:** 14 May 2011, 08:35

SpaceRunaway wrote:

One of my cousins came and brought a friend who I thought was kind of cute,I checked her out the whole evening.Later on my cousin came and talked to me and as usual she asked if I had a girlfriend.I asked her if she would set me up with her friend,she laughed and said she was out of my league then she said "what kind of friend would I be if I did that to her?".I don't know if dhe was kidding or not but I was offended nonetheless.

Wow, that's rude :shock:

Onkel Willie · **Posted:** 14 May 2011, 15:21

SpaceRunaway wrote:

Onkel Willie,thank you for response.And to answer your question,me and my siblings are totally different people and not only will I be out of place in their social circle but there is too much of an age difference.Even if they were willing to help me(which they aren't)I doubt I'd gain much from it.My younger brother and sister are 16,my older brothers are raising a family and can't be bothered with me,my older sister is pregnant and my younger brother(18)has no interest in helping me.So them helping my with my problem....not gonna happen.

Also the subject of me being a virgin always comes up,even if I don't bring it up.Before I turned 18 no one really made a big deal out of it and just gave me cliche dating advice but after I turned 18 and missed out on senior prom,people started to think I was wierd.I remember one particular incident that happened last year on july 4th.It was a family gathering with lots of people.One of my cousins came and brought a friend who I thought was kind of cute,I checked her out the whole evening.Later on my cousin came and talked to me and as usual she asked if I had a girlfriend.I asked her if she would set me up with her friend,she laughed and said she was out of my league then she said "what kind of friend would I be if I did that to her?".I don't know if dhe was kidding or not but I was offended nonetheless.

That's pretty much the whole situation,sorry for the lengthy message.And as for prostitutes,I would very much prefer a loving, long-term relationship but if I can't get that,I would be more than willing to settle for sex, from either a girl I meet in a bar/club or a prostitute(it will most likely end up being the latter).Its pretty much my only option.

Seems your siblings have some empathy problems towards you. Then again, love-shys and involuntarily celibates usually can't count on understanding from anybody but their own kind so this is hardly surprisin. Their lack of willingness to help is quite stunning considering you're family. I can understand about the older ones, but your 18 y.o brother could still help.

Maybe it's time to, at the next time the subject is brought up and they scorn you again, to explode in rage and hit someone. Maybe then they'll understand what kind of feelings you're keeping inside.

As for prostitutes. Why not? Sex with a prostitute can be very good since they are extremely experienced and you won't be their first virgin. Just say you're a virgin, they'll understand and give you a good time. Btw, I don't think you mentioned this yet so I have to ask: have you ever used dating sites? If not, then that option is also still open.

tyler_durden · **Posted:** 15 May 2011, 00:43

I tried to stop, but I just can't.

Adam82 · **Posted:** 15 May 2011, 01:10

Well...

My sister is 26 and has had at least one b/f
My middle brother is 18 and has had a few g/fs that I know of
My youngest brother is 15 and hasn't had a g/f
I'm 28 and have never had a g/f

I think we're all late bloomers in my family. But 'late bloomer' is one thing. We're talking 21, 22, 23, etc. Now, 28, nearly 29? That's just pathetic

obiwan · **Posted:** 15 May 2011, 01:12

tyler_durden wrote:

I tried to stop, but I just can't.

One hit wonder

MrToad · **Posted:** 09 Jun 2011, 17:45

I'm the only one too bro, and the oldest.
I'm 31, my sisters and brother are 28, 22, 20, 17.
I like to think the 17yr old is still a virgin, but I know she's had at least 1 b/f.

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