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 Post subject: Re: Theres this girl
PostPosted: 23 Apr 2012, 08:04 
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I feel Natalie is one of those nice girls who would not want to hurt someone (but rejection hurts regardless). Im still to fucked up right now to be with her. i know i can change this though. if im lucky (very lucky) i will get to see her again. but i doubt she thinks much of me anyway. probably dose not even know my name.

I will go to schools early every day to talk to her (she sits with a group of people i hang out with from time to time). at best i can use her as a learning experience. I will also fix myself. This hurts to acknowledge but i WILL make myself stronger with this experience. It wont help me with her, but it may help me someday.

I feel as if im week and trying to be strong. Its ridiculous. I need to fix my reality, i need to spend more time in reality. escapism is fucking me up mentally.


My Natalie knows my name (she knows my sister), but I doubt she much cares whether she sees me again or not. Good luck with yours.

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I was going through the hell of a crush over Felicity, a coursemate . She seems really interested because she always tries to sit next to me in classes, tries making eye contact and, according to my mate, glances at me frequently when I can't see her. I had a kind of good chat with her once but I could not overcome my LSness to try to take things further. I recently found out that she is actually in a long distance relationship with some guy. This seems to have cooled me off pretty well. I would not get involved with a taken chick and now I feel that I think less of her as a person :D . I'm on spring break right now and haven't seen her for a while. I hope that seeing her again won't reignite my oneitis.


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Her name is Natalie. im in oneitis with her. Next semester she will transfer to a new school. and i know i will never see her again. she is beautiful, yer i am not attracted to her because of her of her beauty. i am atracted to her how sweet she is. granted im not so close. ive ever never seen someone so kind to anyone they didnt know so closely. my attraction overcame and consumed me. she is so nice she looks me in the the eyes, even when i dont look back, even when i dont look back. she smiles when talk to her.to talk to her. i havent event gone to school in a week because evey time i see her (insert words for a feeling i cant describe here). i hope ill cut myself again ad again to remind myself of her, but wont, eventually ill forget her. that pains me so much. she will just like Kathleen. but Kathleen dose not bother me anymore. i was not supposed to be this this way.

reality is a nice place to visit, but i would not want to live there.


if you feel that stronly about her, ask her out (or at least try too)

Allegedly one of my friends already tried, she not looking for a boyfriend right now.

That's the oldest excuse in the book. :( So yeah, leave her for later and give yourself a better life.



Really its better to at least try, then at least you'll know for shure and you can move on, and who knows it might work.

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Remember you miss 100 % of the shots you never take.


There's an ironic duality to the meaning of that, too. You 'miss' them in the sense of regret. 10 years from now you'll always be wondering "what if". Don't do that to yourself, trust me.

Also, Natalie is probably tied 2nd for my favourite female names. :> (I know, I'm an idiot.)

At school once when I was about 17 or 18, a French exchange student came over for a short while. She was simply stunning. She sort of made friends with a girl that my best friend knew well, so I got to see her sometimes. I never did anything or said anything, even on the last day before she left England. :\ I suppose I feel I just didn't have a chance compared to all the other guys that I presumed *had* been vying for her attention. Also I hate being part of the mass following and competing in this way. She also wore a tshirt on that last day that said "Je ne sui pas un cadeaux," and I suppose it put me off too. Weird, I can't remember her name now. :\ I'm more sad about that.

I'm going to text my old friend and find that out, I have to know...

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Remember you miss 100 % of the shots you never take.


There's an ironic duality to the meaning of that, too. You 'miss' them in the sense of regret. 10 years from now you'll always be wondering "what if". Don't do that to yourself, trust me.




Exactly, i fell in love with a girl once, developped oneitis one could say, but i tried several times to make it work till the very end of school (she was in my class)but it never worked. I still feel angry about it sometimes but its better to feel that then to regret and ask yourself "what if". I know i did what i could and that things didn't work wasn't my fault but hers.

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Lol Webley Tempest she is of french descent. ive been around her watch how she interacted with others, the type of others and realized one thing. Hacker should just give up.

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Adam should give up too. I met her six months ago today, and haven't got anywhere with her. But giving up is easier said than done. :(

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Adam should give up too. I met her six months ago today, and haven't got anywhere with her. But giving up is easier said than done. :(

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Adam should give up too. I met her six months ago today, and haven't got anywhere with her. But giving up is easier said than done. :(


what exactly do people mean by "giving up" on a oneitis? giving up hope of a relationship, or giving up thinking about her? I understand why it's unhealthy to delude yourself into believing you may somehow end up with someone just because you think about them so much, but is it unhealthy just to think about someone, to wonder what she's doing, to talk to her when you can, and to write her name in secret places?

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That's something I've asked too. Where does one go when they have given up? Uh-oh, still here, only things are worse. Don't give up. Your stuck here.


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Well for me give up means to try as hard as i can to quit thinking about said person completly. Why completly. Cause im obbsessed. Healthy thoughts turn to unhealthy ones at a rapid rate. its kinda how they say alcholics cant stop at one, because they dont know how to. well i dont know how to stop at a healthy thought. its 0 or 10 for me.

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Well for me give up means to try as hard as i can to quit thinking about said person completly. Why completly. Cause im obbsessed. Healthy thoughts turn to unhealthy ones at a rapid rate. its kinda how they say alcholics cant stop at one, because they dont know how to. well i dont know how to stop at a healthy thought. its 0 or 10 for me.


when I'm driving in my car I imagine a scenario in which She's sitting next to me, touching my arm as She talks to me, leaning Her head on my shoulder and smiling... I imagine the comments She would make on the music on the radio, or the scenery outside... the plans we're making: "Oh, what do you want to do today?" "No, what do YOU want to do today?" (both of us giggle).

Even if I lose some of my other fantasies, I couldn't get rid of this one. I commute 25 minutes to work and I can't imagine what else I would do while I was driving.

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Well for me give up means to try as hard as i can to quit thinking about said person completly. Why completly. Cause im obbsessed. Healthy thoughts turn to unhealthy ones at a rapid rate. its kinda how they say alcholics cant stop at one, because they dont know how to. well i dont know how to stop at a healthy thought. its 0 or 10 for me.


when I'm driving in my car I imagine a scenario in which She's sitting next to me, touching my arm as She talks to me, leaning Her head on my shoulder and smiling... I imagine the comments She would make on the music on the radio, or the scenery outside... the plans we're making: "Oh, what do you want to do today?" "No, what do YOU want to do today?" (both of us giggle).

Even if I lose some of my other fantasies, I couldn't get rid of this one. I commute 25 minutes to work and I can't imagine what else I would do while I was driving.


How about shouting at all the lousy sunday drivers :lol:. Kidding of course.

The only real remedy that works to forget a oneitis, in my experience at least, is physical separation. My last oneitis was in high school when I was around 18-19 years old. She went to study in another place than me and I haven't seen her since, except at my brother's graduation.

The fact that I never saw her again caused the feelings to slowly fade away. Of course I periodically checked her facebook, but even that I'm doing less and less. I don't have real feelings for her anymore (doesn't mean I would say no to a mindblowing sex session, but that's probably only going to happen if I were the last man on Earth :lol:)

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That's something I've asked too. Where does one go when they have given up? Uh-oh, still here, only things are worse. Don't give up. Your stuck here.


You can't really 'give up'. They stay on your mind, sometimes for a long time. The pain does eventually go away, sometimes. But the person is still there in your mind somewhere. Even though the feelings have died for some of my past oneitii, i still think about what they're up to, from time to time.

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Oneitis is the worst thing in the world.
I don't know how much longer I could take it.

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