I have known this girl, we'll call her "S". I've known her for about 5 years and when we met when we were sophomores in High School. I think we liked each other back then but I fucked up and she got really mad at me, so mad she erased me from myspace, and ignored me and did everything possible to avoid me. We really only talked on aol chat, but we would talk everyday from the minute I would come in from school around 3:30 to maybe 9:30-10pm. She tried to help me get over one of my sibling's death and I was really angry at God, and couldn't really rationalize her help, but always did my best to try and talk to her about other things and keep her laughing. Of course I never told her I had never had a girlfriend. Well after she got mad, I couldn't muster the courage to go and talk to her and clear things up. Instead I gave her her space because I thought I deserved any punishment or pain she wanted to cause me. A year went by like that until she finally forgave me and added me on Facebook. Well we talked very seldomly and she had a boyfriend. So eventually on Jan. 25, 2010 I broke and told her everything. She said she was flattered but she was seeing someone already, which seemed true, but it didn't keep me from trying to get to her. Of course it didn't work. Recently she broke up with her bf and I tried inviting her to the Rodeo which is a festival in texas. She accepted but eventually flaked out. I saw her briefly there on my way out but I freaked out and my head told me that if I went over she wouldn't respect me cause it would seem like I was slobbering over her. So eventually I texted her and told her straight up that I was pissed and how I felt. She told me that her bf had just broken up with her and that she didn't want to be rude but didn't have time to deal with the awkwardness. So I told her I was very sorry and that my feelings were hurt, and I hope she would understand. About a week later I bombarded her with questions and told her I wouldn't stop until I got an answer, of course I didn't so I asked her what the point of being my friend was, why would she keep me around? and If she could erase me, because I wouldn't because I did want to be her friend.So the other day I had to talk to her again cause I couldn't take it anymore and told her that I couldn't get over her, and also that I didn't want to either. That I wanted to know how she got over me? Because she didn't seem to have as much trouble as I did, and that I had tried what she did with me, which was erasing her but I couldn't never keep to it and would always ask her back. I told her that I missed her. She said she didn't know if she was the person I should tell this to and that she didn't know what to say. I don't know what she wants and I hate seeing her go out with other guys and I don't know if I should erase her because I always have this hope that somehow we can work out, because I'm pretty sure she felt as strongly as I did when she liked me back then.

Welcome.

She's not attracted to you. The sooner you get over her, the better. There is no alternative.

You're the one acting batty. Should have tried working with the offer to re-engage. I think you've pretty much killed any hope there ever was by refusing to talk when she was there, then bombarding the shit out of her with questions once she left. You said it had been years. There's no way to have a conversation with someone one who never forgets. Most people don't want to revisit moments of awkwardness (failure). Accept it and act as you wish to take things. If all you really care about is an answer, well, then continue what your doing. If you want a relationship, let it go, build new memories.

You used past tense in perhaps the most revealing remark of your story. It seems that at one point she may have felt for you strongly, but, as with many these days, timing is crucial; she is over you as it appears. I am sorry...you sound kind of like how I might have reacted had I had something of the sort in high school (extrapolation here).

Your situation kind of reminded me mine with oneitis. I couldn't accept the situation of her having boyfriend. It was extremely hard for me to forget about my feelings. Now these feelings of unrequited love and care are deeply buried and rarely appear. We still remained good friends, though.

don't worry, you can still listen to her problems and help her move her stuff from one guy's apartment to the other whenever she switches b/fs. and when she has kids, you'll probably watch them a few times. don't give up!