The thing about a boot camp is this. Ha, you know what I'm going to say. I wish I could say that this is a really great idea and it works and you come out the other end nice and shiny, but alas. Yes over the years since the early 1990's I've looked into bootcamps and courses and have spend a couple of grand and then some on such.
And yes. I won't say that you'll get absolutely nothing out of it. If you've got money to burn, a lot of them are probably good fun. The people that run them are whacky, and some are even good comedians and you can get some feelgood out of them and when it's over there is the news letter, and you can tell your mates how good it was and you all lived in tents in the rocky mountains or studied at some posh hotel and how classy it all felt.
But as far as comming away and being able to put their half baked theorums which sound great while they telling it, into practice, and your in the middle of an ordinary everydayness, and MR Funguy is nowhere ins ight, and you're on your own, there is something that you cannot make your body and mind do. You can't remember bootcamp and the mottos or whatever and majicaly light up like a beacon, go into the place, see the girl and "Hi Doll, I'm Jim Steel..."
It's not like doing a course in photography and comming away from it and actualy be able to take better pictures. I wish it was but it is not my experience and it is not the experience for a lot of people. I'm not saying these bootcamps don't work for some people. You may be one of the lucky ones. But it's a gamble and according to the statistics you've got as much chance of it working for you as you have winning the jack pot.
I think if something like that were to be useful it would need to be a class that you attended once or twice a week for several years.
For me I think a bootcamp would help because I feel as though if I see men approaching women and getting results, and if I am able to do the same with a PUA's guidance, then that would totally stick with me and change my attitude and perception. Of course any new ability takes practice, so going to one bootcamp wouldn't be worth the money if I didn't actually practice what I learned on a regular basis. I think maybe that is the reason why many men who attend bootcamps ultimately fail, is because they don't practice what they learned during the bootcamps.
I like the idea of attending a once a week class. If my college offered a class like that I'd definitely enroll in a heartbeat!
The problem we face is on a political scale. It's not us who are at fault. We're not "broken". We're not missing a screw here and there, and we just need a new card installed to fix it. The problem is largely outside of us as individuals. Like you need air to breath. Without an atmosphere, no amount of bootcamp will teach you how to live without air.
I'm not saying there is nothing we can do. We are in a simular possition as John Brown of the free slavery movement of the 19th century. Traditionaly, people like us were written off as village idiots and ignored. It probably wasn't too painfull back then because villages were small and your senses wern't being assaulted by pussy everytime you walked out of your hut. There was just you and your pitchfaulk and a jug of mead. Life was short. So that by the time you were my age, you were in the ground. Alternatively, if you were very broken hearted the army was there. In Britain you went to sea. In the US you joined the cavalry. People died, life moved a lot faster. You wern't seen as a looser back then because you couldn't get a woman, there was just too much day to day struggle for survival to get depressed. Personaly I would rather have been born in those days than now. We are not rendered "idle" by choice but by circumstance.
By idle I don't mean sitting and twiddling your thumbs. I mean, that you're forced into your cubyhole in the vast terrain of suburbia and shopping malls. No one wants to understand anyone so we defend ourselves with labels. Whatever the solution, it will be radical and previously unthought of.
There is no mental technique to get into the "frame of mind". Not like playing tennis or some sport where the rules are explicit and refereed and everyone knows what they've got to do to win the game. In this dating world there is just you and your missfortune, your vulnerabilities and pleanty of opportunity for some very nasty and humiliating experiences which will make you wish you were with General Custer.
Tolstoy didn't write War and Peace on a wim. It's purpose was to explain why people go to war. If you read the peacetime narrative, there is a lot more agro and dispair than in the wartime section. And once the war is over the old stresses of domesticity return. We as a species cannot survive without the ethos of war. War is not a bad thing, it's just messy. It's use is it grounds one in reality. It gave people something to get a handle on. In a charge, you get to experience your whole body self.
When the troops go to war the women realise how hard life is without men around, so used to appreciate them a lot more. Now we are two a penny. The Earth is overpopulated. We're fast running out of resources. We're close to tipping point. So, yes I don't think the present state of affairs are permanent by any means. I'm afraid it's down to the women to change. Over the last 40 years men have done a lot of accomodating for womens needs. Women have not reciprocated.
We can only really follow the leadership of the suffregettes and march as they marched and demand as they demanded. We need mens rights groups. Our needs are different to womens needs. There needs to be give and take on both sides. Right now we're doing all the giving. We've got to demand that women take their obligations seriously just as they make constant demands of us even as total strangers. Common coutesy that is always defered to women in public needs also to be defered to men in public, rather than treating us like a laughing stock. Women have got to take men as seriously as we take them.
How we get the message out I don't know. We need members to keep posting their experiences and their ideas and to keep asking questions.
I'm not sure what to make of all this. I don't agree that the human species can't survive without war. I really think the main goal of humanity should be to strive to achieve a higher consciousness. One day materialism and wealth will be irrelevant because we'll have robots and automated systems working all of our jobs, and all the basic necessities will be provided free of charge. Think of it as a giant utopian welfare state, minus the state. Who needs a government when a computer can do things for more efficiently? In this possible future reality, women will no longer be seeking men of wealth or high status, because all men will essentially be on an equal footing in that regard. So then, will love be the main factor in future relationships?