I'm 20, and there's only been 3 times in my life where I've known of a girl liking me, and they were all in elementary school.

It really makes me wonder if there's the slightest chance of any girls that I know from classes, girls I see every day, etc. actually liking me or my looks. I've pretty much convinced myself it's impossible for a girl to like me.

yeah a few girls, some of them I didn't like, some of them I liked but decided not to act on

though a girl being attracted to you does not equal a girl willing to date you
it depends on the girls circumstance (take or not), and whether you actively ask them out or not.

With that kind of attitude it will probably become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The only way to find out if women like you is to approach them, ask them out on dates, etc.

I can certainly say no girls have ever liked me, sadly enough. I was just too fucking socially incompetent to display attractiveness in a normal way and court a girl, Asperger's and all that . I also was and still am too introverted, preferring solitary activities over group activities (which doesn't imply an active dislike for group activities but just that they can't keep my interest for very long) and being fine with having a small social circle.



Only works if you're attractive. You can do something with clothes to make you look better and practice social skills. But in the end no amount of gimmicks and whatnot is going to create attraction where there is none. Those things are only there to spice up the initial interaction.

Anyone know of any way possible to somehow gauge how attractive the opposite sex finds you? I mean, asking out them would indicate it, but I've only tried that once.

Yes, from my own research I've found that women do offer important clues when they are attracted to men. They include:

-Her chest/tits are facing you
-She's smiling often and laughing at your jokes (even if the jokes are kind of lame)
-She's closing the distance between you, or seems ok with you closing the distance
-She's touching you or is ok with you touching her

All of these clues will be given off during a conversation, that's why you have to approach them and start a conversation to find out if they give off any of these signals.

Other clues:

-She holds eye contact with you often
-She frequently touches her hair during conversations with you
-She offers you multiple compliments (stacking compliments - one after another)
-Her feet or body is tilted toward you
-She has open body language (not crossing her arms)
-She sets her purse near you, or allows you to touch it (women are usually protective of their purses)

There are probably dozens and dozens of little clues that most guys would never be consciously aware of, but the one's I posted above are a pretty good indication. If she gives off multiple signals, let's say 4 or more of the above, then she probably is genuinely attracted to you.

Well, if we're going by this. Then no. Never. Women I have been friends with over the decades may exhibit one of these actions towards me, but it was already "clairified" b y her that we were friends. Some were good friends. Some were not.

Friends, female colleagues, and family members occasionally give off these signals too. But the specific context in regards to attraction is if a woman exhibits these signals upon first meeting you, during the first interaction or first date, then she's probably attracted to you. Like if I were to approach a random woman and then during our conversation she starts giving off multiple signals like the one's listed above, then I would assume she was attracted to me. I think the key is the amount of signals. If she's giving you compliments, smiling a lot, laughing at your jokes, giving you strong eye contact, facing her body toward you, leaning in toward you, is touching your hands, arm, or shoulder during the conversation, then all those signals combined are a very strong indication of attraction.

does leaning against you or sitting on you count?

then I have nothing to worry about because I never even had a date. I have never received any of these signals in meeting, in convos, at work, bartending, at the cafe (where I am sitting now), in India, in Japan, in West Germany, in New York, in Vermont, in Boston, in San Francisco, on a bus, walking.

Hopelessromantic you're bringing out the "life is a drag" in me. Please stop.

Have I known any girls to like me?

That's probably about as far as it went. The sort of thing where a girl has said, "I like you" and then buggered off.

this looks like its straight out of some online web site or something

while interested girls do show some of these signs there is so much variability to girls and individuals that there is no fool proof sign that tells you 100% that a girl likes you, initially that is.

I d say a girl looking at you a lot makes it more probable that she finds you interesting but it won't guaranty a date. after talking and hanging with a girl for a while I think you just kinda get the feeling that someone likes you its not one sign its a consistent behavior pattern you will notice. if the girl is shy you can still sense there is something between you because she will slightly change her behavior around you, probably become shier.
confident girl though, they will I rape you they will make very bold eye contact, even in front of everyone


BUT I think the most important thing to know is that signs don't matter all that much, what matters is if they want to go out with you, a girl might be frowning a lot but once you ask her out she will say yes, and a girl will be really smiley and fertility but say no, its just personality differences. in all cases still you have to ask the chick out! it will help just assuming the girl likes you so you can go through with asking her out.

I have - but had absolutely no idea of how best to react to make the best of it.
Or, once I do realise they may be interested, I'll freeze up because my mind goes into overdrive trying to figure out what the fuck to do, and that usually kills off any attraction they may have had.

If a random stranger started giving off these signals immediately I would be very afraid. But if an acquaintance started doing this, I would probably pick up the clues and mirror them. At least experience has shown this.

why would you be afraid? honestly I think you are just saying that, there is nothing strange about looking and smiling at a person you find attractive upon first meeting them, everyone does a variation of this subconsciously, you either suppress your interest and become shy or you are open with your interest by looking at them and smiling.