It angers me that they have no absolute interest to help me as long as they can get their gratification, not to sound mean but i wish they would spend at least a week in my shoes, they'll go insane. (it's a wonder why i have not gone insane. . .??)

Plus the fact that I my die sooner than everybody else. . . .

No, he isn't. This is a support forum, is it not? A guy is clearly in need of help here, and I feel bad that we can't do anything to help him. Many of us here can't even help ourselves.

I'd like to see non celibate guys spend a year in one of our pairs of shoes. They wouldn't be able to take it.

Too fucking right mate.

He could well be a troll, but he also could not be making a whole lot of sense because he is in so much pain. So let's give the guy a break eh?

AND BEFORE anyone say's 'Bbububububub why don't you give women the benefit of the doubt?' you show me an Incel woman and I will eat my leather waistcoat without salt and fucking pepper.

Its not fair. . . I just need some help, and someone already does not believe me. . .

Life isn't fair. You haven't figured that out yet?

Speaking as former Army soldier if you platoon sergeant was a REAL NCO he (or she) would help you to rectify this situation ASAP!!! I don't mean paying for a hooker or escort out of their own pocket (you can do that yourself-hint hint) but they should be a little understanding at least-after all your problems can eventually become their problems as well. In regards to your mother tell her you've only been in 3 years more likely than not you are making the money to properly support a family anyway. It was common where I was stationed at to see soliders working secong jobs or on WIC and just skating by-NCOs mind you-and this was 20+ years ago. Don't get married and for DAMN sure don't bring a kidlet(kidlets) into the world just to please somebody else. [/color][/color]

Soldier...

You're going to have to reach down within yourself, and find the strength to do something you never thought you'd do...

YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO TELL YOUR MOM TO CALM HER ASS DOWN!

Now don't misunderstand me; no, I'm not advocating being disrespectful towards your mom, but let's be real about it: she is being disrespectful to you, and she's way out of line. She is! Tell her that if the vocation in life for you is that of a single, then that needs to be acceptable to her; maybe you'll be married someday, but until then, she needs to respect circumstances that are out of both her hands and yours. Dare her to examine her own heart, and see if she wants a grandson from you FOR SELFISH REASONS. You can show her respect as you do this, but it's something that she is going to have to hear.

This is one of the many frustrations of being incel/love-shy. Even our close relatives seem to think we're single by choice, as though we're doing this to ourselves on purpose. They seem to think that finding a relationship or wife is easy for everyone like you could go to the store and buy one.

Still, hardliner is right, Lonely_Soldier. This may take a couple of times but you need to tell your mom to back off.

I wish it was that easy, my collegue is getting married in December, the worst part is I'm invited. . .

I don't mean to get off the topic of helping Lonely Soldier, but...

I'm of the opinion that What Fonduman just said is EXACTLY fucking right. I can not believe how well that quote describes my problem.

That this is the cause of LS I am quite certain.

Now, the next question: what causes this reaction?
It's not an overly puritanical environment...

Look no further than relentless, merciless teasing early in life from parents, siblings and peers.

Seriously, if you had a gun to my head and demanded that I explain my 33-year-old inexperience in one, short sentence with the utmost honesty and humility that I could muster, here is what my answer would be:

Because the other kids will pick on me.

Huh? What do you mean, hardliner?
If you have any hope of understanding, you already get it.

My friends and family told me to respect women, not to be lewd towards them and they will come to you, in essence they made me believe that sex and romance was bad, everytime I lusted and desired a woman I would feel so dirty that i would not even try to show up the next day in public. I still believe i am not good enough for a woman, though deep down. . . there is still hope. . . I just wish i found a woman who would love me unconditionally for who I am, not how I look, how much money I make, how big my "package" is, etc. etc.

I just wish I would call myself "The Married Soldier" for once. . . .