Causes of "pure" incel

Dante Alighieri · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 01:10

What are the 3 main causes of "pure" incel in your opinion?

Seb · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 01:31

johnnysack wrote:

What are the 3 main causes of "pure" incel in your opinion?

Simple, I voted looks,money and picky women, based on what I have seen, and I can't be any more honest than that.

If looks aren't a factor, then how do you explain the instant rejection and fuck off signals I get from women??

astrosleuth · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 03:25

I chose from what I've experienced, (lack of) looks, (lack of) money and so-called 'bad' personality

1. looks get you in the door

2. women want security

3. they also like challenges and to be kept on their toes (AKA exciting bad boy)...sad, but true...
I can't win.

Dante Alighieri · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 03:30

greatgarrett2 wrote:

3. they also like challenges and to be kept on their toes (AKA exciting bad boy)...sad, but true...
I can't win.

Maybe you misunderstood something. In this poll "bad" personality isn't bad boy personality but a personality that is widely considered unattractive. I wouldn't propose bad boy personality as a reason for incel, lol

If, however, you meant that your personality has these unattractive traits and women want bad boys than it's my mistake.

Anyway, you can vote again if you think you made a mistake.

astrosleuth · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 03:36

johnnysack wrote:

greatgarrett2 wrote:

3. they also like challenges and to be kept on their toes (AKA exciting bad boy)...sad, but true...
I can't win.

If, however, you meant that your personality has these unattractive traits and women want bad boys than it's my mistake.

Anyway, you can vote again if you think you made a mistake.

Yeah, that's what I meant. My personality has those 'unattractive' traits listed in the poll and women want confident bad boys...my apologies.

Seb · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 04:58

johnnysack wrote:

greatgarrett2 wrote:

3. they also like challenges and to be kept on their toes (AKA exciting bad boy)...sad, but true...
I can't win.

Maybe you misunderstood something. In this poll "bad" personality isn't bad boy personality but a personality that is widely considered unattractive. I wouldn't propose bad boy personality as a reason for incel, lol

If, however, you meant that your personality has these unattractive traits and women want bad boys than it's my mistake.

Anyway, you can vote again if you think you made a mistake.

How can you have an "unattractive personality", when women don't even give you a chance to get to know you as a person?

Dante Alighieri · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 09:14

Seb wrote:

johnnysack wrote:

greatgarrett2 wrote:

3. they also like challenges and to be kept on their toes (AKA exciting bad boy)...sad, but true...
I can't win.

Maybe you misunderstood something. In this poll "bad" personality isn't bad boy personality but a personality that is widely considered unattractive. I wouldn't propose bad boy personality as a reason for incel, lol

If, however, you meant that your personality has these unattractive traits and women want bad boys than it's my mistake.

Anyway, you can vote again if you think you made a mistake.

How can you have an "unattractive personality", when women don't even give you a chance to get to know you as a person?

Hi Seb

I know most women gave you fuck off signals before you even got to introduce yourself and I feel for you. Buy a guy can meet a woman she can be repulsed by his personality too even if his looks are ok.

Seb · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 09:51

johnnysack wrote:

Seb wrote:

johnnysack wrote:

greatgarrett2 wrote:

3. they also like challenges and to be kept on their toes (AKA exciting bad boy)...sad, but true...
I can't win.

Maybe you misunderstood something. In this poll "bad" personality isn't bad boy personality but a personality that is widely considered unattractive. I wouldn't propose bad boy personality as a reason for incel, lol

If, however, you meant that your personality has these unattractive traits and women want bad boys than it's my mistake.

Anyway, you can vote again if you think you made a mistake.

How can you have an "unattractive personality", when women don't even give you a chance to get to know you as a person?

Hi Seb

I know most women gave you fuck off signals before you even got to introduce yourself and I feel for you. Buy a guy can meet a woman she can be repulsed by his personality too even if his looks are ok.

G'day Johnny, and thanks for your understanding, and yes I agree that looks will only get you so far, and even the best looking guy can repulse a woman if his personality is that bad.

For example, I know this Jock guy who can pick women easily (because of his looks), but he can't hang on to them for any period of time, although he was married for 10 years before he got divorced.

Adam82 · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 14:48

I picked bad/boring personality, no money, and women are picky.

arthas543 · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 15:33

no. 1 definitively looks (looks are very important). After that I have picked the "Not enough money" and "bad personality".

Joshua · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 16:12

Bad personality type as being creepy.
No Money

and

Something else.

I think those are my factored problems. But I really don't know about the "something else" option because I don't know what is wrong with me from the girls perspective. But there is "something" and this "something" I am trying to figure out.

Departed · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 16:35

Looks
Bad personality (shyness, anxiety, low confidence)
Low social status (no friends, or the wrong type of friends, unpopularity)
Poor interpersonal skills (inability to pick up on social cues, awkwardness)

The four of these are strongly correlated, especially the latter three.

Seb · **Posted:** 21 Aug 2010, 17:12

Raskolnikov wrote:

Looks
Bad personality (shyness, anxiety, low confidence)
Low social status (no friends, or the wrong type of friends, unpopularity)
Poor interpersonal skills (inability to pick up on social cues, awkwardness)

The four of these are strongly correlated, especially the latter three.

I agree that poor looks can cause incel, and I am probably the classic example of that, but being shy and having low confidence does not mean you have a bad personality.

I am very shy, have anxiety, and zilch confidence around women (because of constant rejection), but I still consider myself to have a good personality. But with you Rasko, you have mentioned that women approach you, so at least you don't have any issues with looks.

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Seb · **Posted:** 22 Aug 2010, 01:59

e_i-2 wrote:

"Bad" personality- boring, creepy, low confidence, wrong attitude etc . . . is one of the highest?

The personality is only 'bad' because they don't have the other factors which make them 'good', i.e, money, status, looks, etc . . . and if they seem to be low confidence or bad attitude it's probably because of being abused by women because they lack these superficial features.

Exactly, I have a good personality, and I am not a creep (although Sydney/Aussie women think my MEA is "creepy"), and what's with the "wrong attitude"?, you can have the most positive attitude and women can still reject you.

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