Do any of you out there have love shy friends? i had one way back in 5th grade when all this appears to have started, im no longer friends with him... but right after i stopped hanging out with the first, i became best friends with another guy who is a love shy... perhaps we can relate... but the strange thing is no matter how much we talk about how hot this girl is, or this girl i work with, we never discuss the fact that neither of us have ever had a girlfriend, or a kiss, or a decent number of dates.. we never discuss our relationships with women (or lack thereof) although we both know each others situation..

anyone else experience something similar?

I have one that I suspect might be LS, but I don't know if he's really LS, incel for another reason, or if he just doesn't really care.

I know several LS/incel guys late 30's/early 40's... at least 2 of them still carrying their V-card...

And then I know guys with far less going from them than those guys but actually get girls... I think this back asswards area we live in has a lot to do with it though....

I don't know of any friends I have who are love shy/incel. But I do have a few LS family members. My uncle lost his V card at age 40, and is now married to the same woman. I have another cousin who is 21 and has never had a girlfriend, nor ever really shown any interest in getting one, but I guess there's still time for him yet. I am 28 and have never had one, either.

I don't have any friends, LS or otherwise.

i know one guy who has resolved to stay single and another who never has any association with girls.

How old are they, if you don't mind me asking? Coz I get embarrassed being a 28 year old who's never had any relationship at all. If these guys are early twenties, that's still OK. When you hit mid-late twenties, and you're still virgin, that's when alarm bells start going off for women. Mid-late twenties virgin women would be exceedingly rare entities. So I have to accept that if I want someone my own age, she'd be second hand goods.

My best friend is love-shy and incel as well. His plight seems extremely severe, he is on the verge of giving up, no hopes.

Some of my other friends or acquaintances are also likely to be LS/incel but I don't want to meddle into their lives just to find out if they really are.

same age as me, about 20-21

I think my best friend is an incel.

I had a really good friend in my teen years who I think was in danger of eventually becoming LS but he managed to avoid that.

Actually with the help of alcohol and pot he became quite a womanizer. He did devolop other mental problems later though. That's the reason I think he could have become LS.

I don't have any friends. I see random people here and there who have nothing, and it's painfully obvious to me... and though it's impolite to say it, others pick up on it. Some just come out and say it, many don't say much about women at all. Once in a blue moon I'll find a perpetually single woman, but I stopped thinking of that as an opening a long time ago and don't pay it any heed unless she comes up and starts talking about it to me directly.

It's out there, for certain. I'm tempted to put up a flier somewhere calling for those who, like me, are deep in the outs of society, just to let it be known that it is out there. But who knows how that will be taken.