normal people just dont understand

DeadmanWalking · **Posted:** 19 Jun 2012, 22:05

had a co-worker complain to me that she's had it with men, and jokes that she's going to become a lesbian
Apparently it's been nearly a month now without sex, the poor lamb
my heart bleeds!

astrosleuth · **Posted:** 20 Jun 2012, 02:16

If so-called 'normals' spent even a week in my shoes, they'd go batshit insane.

They can't even fathom the depth of it, of our problems. I got this line in the past; 'You'll find someone' yet they don't realize what a task it is for some. They assume everyone's like them, therefore 'it comes easy' and if they see it's not coming easy, they blame you. It must be 'your' fault.

astrosleuth · **Posted:** 20 Jun 2012, 02:18

DeadmanWalking wrote:

had a co-worker complain to me that she's had it with men, and jokes that she's going to become a lesbian
Apparently it's been nearly a month now without sex, the poor lamb
my heart bleeds!

aww...poor thing.

The_woman · **Posted:** 22 Jun 2012, 20:21

Need_To? wrote:

Normal people (mainly girls) often think I hate them even if I've never spoken to them! I don't get it. I wish I could see myself and see what signals I'm giving off. Sometimes my friend will say, "Thingy (a friend of his, not actual name btw) thinks you hate her." Then I'm like "What?!" Anyone else had this?

First post here, by the way, just discovered this forum. I hope it helps.

I've believed some guys didn't like me becuase of them being actually rude, trying to be funny teasing but in a rude way. Some have become Mr tough guy, not caring.

And some I've believed didn't like me because things they don't do. Like seeing me greeting me but never comes up to talk. And one has even been a bit averse.

All have been Mr Cold

bakedsquid · **Posted:** 29 Jun 2012, 10:25

I've never met a normal person.

Erebus · **Posted:** 29 Jun 2012, 12:08

Normal people don't understand, but I think that they don't really give the fuck too. At least in anonymous environment.

Rudeboy41 · **Posted:** 04 Jul 2012, 02:24

Normal people. They're just stupid. Their brain is mostly blubber. Their eyes are square from watching too many crap soaps. They go to the pictures every week and think 3D is amazing. It's like living in the 1930's sometimes. I swear someone is going to advertise a film as being in colour one of these days. After that it will be talkies, where you can hear the cast speak. Then maybe it will be the magic lanturn. These normal people think that Titanic is the greatest film ever. Now where am I trying to go with this. Ah normal people understanding LS. Well I don't understand normal people.

Adam82 · **Posted:** 04 Jul 2012, 12:57

DeadmanWalking wrote:

had a co-worker complain to me that she's had it with men, and jokes that she's going to become a lesbian
Apparently it's been nearly a month now without sex, the poor lamb
my heart bleeds!

Oh WOW.

A month! However does she LIVE?

Poor girl. Try doing that for 30 years or more, with nothing, hun. :roll:

These people really do live on a different planet.

The concept of a girl liking me requires more suspension of disbelief than any science fiction film. I find it hard to even watch any romance scene in movies, its a different world for me.

Webley Tempest · **Posted:** 04 Jul 2012, 13:26

Snickers wrote:

A friend of mine who was known for getting laid all the time used to complain to me whenever he had a dry spell back before anyone knew I was a virgin. Thinking that I got laid every once in a while and just never bragged, he thought I would understand a month or so of no sex. When I finally got tired of it, I said to him, in a calm tone "I bet I've gone longer without having sex than you have." Not believing me, he proclaimed that was impossible. I retorted by saying "Fine, lets both say how long we've gone without invading an old catcher's mit, and whoever's gone the least has to pay the other $1 for every week they haven't had sex." We shook hands, he said 7 weeks, and I said 2 decades. At first he thought I was kidding, but I insisted that he pay me as per our bet. Over the next few days, he scouted out the girls throughout our dorm from the hot to the ugly that I had associated with, and he couldn't find a single one that could honestly say I plowed them. We deliberated over the bet some more over the following weekend and came to compromise that had him paying me for every week after I'd turned 13. He wrote me a check for around $350, and asked me if it was worth it now that my reputation had been obliterated. I told him that winning that bet was better than what I assumed sex felt like. 8)

I really like this story.

Donbot · **Posted:** 12 Aug 2012, 04:25

We shouldn't really be mad at non-cels for thinking that way. I mean, growing up, we all assumed that we would have a successful paying job, have a house, be married, have children, the whole schtick. Somewhere down the line though, we realized that it dosen't always work like that.

When you don't have any of that, you see how empty life can be, something non-cels(or as I like to call them, valid people) wouldn't be able to fathom because they went down the right path. Hell, if any of us were non-cel we wouldn't be thinking of the loneliness of others because it wouldn't be relevant to us.

I would like however, if there was an incel awareness campaign to the general public, and to make sure they do care, we would have to force a number of people to be incel(if such a thing was possible) so they can be fully aware of the effects and help others get out of their incel situation. I'd want others to be fully educated on it AND know what its like by experiencing it first hand.

Personally, I think the biggest taboo of all is loneliness, and thats why people don't talk about it much, but it is a serious issue that needs to be treated ASAP.

Adam82 · **Posted:** 12 Aug 2012, 04:32

Valid people. I like that description. Few people are truly valid, though. Even people who have partners, which is the majority of people, have other problems. They can't pay their mortgages, hate their jobs, etc, etc

I think the only people who care about incel are incels themselves. We're the only ones suffering from it. We can't expect society at large to care. Most people have no (or little) difficulty finding a significant other. I don't know why loneliness is such a taboo subject, but it is. I suppose people who have wives and children don't want to have a downer ruining their fun. Much like I don't want to see starving kids in Africa on television while I'm eating my nice dinner.

Donbot · **Posted:** 12 Aug 2012, 04:48

Adam82 wrote:

Valid people. I like that description. Few people are truly valid, though. Even people who have partners, which is the majority of people, have other problems. They can't pay their mortgages, hate their jobs, etc, etc

I think the only people who care about incel are incels themselves. We're the only ones suffering from it. We can't expect society at large to care. Most people have no (or little) difficulty finding a significant other. I don't know why loneliness is such a taboo subject, but it is. I suppose people who have wives and children don't want to have a downer ruining their fun. Much like I don't want to see starving kids in Africa on television while I'm eating my nice dinner.

The reason why loneliness is such a taboo subject is because as individuals, we fear that, so we try to avoid it as much as possible. Alot of people act like they don't need to have outside support(especially an SO) to validate them, but the problem is, those people are what I like to call socially protected and they don't realize how valuable that really is. We all rely on external validation more than we would like to admit, thats part of being human.

I am deathly afraid of what may happen when I'm older if I don't get my incelibacy cured in a certain amount of time. Who will I go to to talk about my problems, who will be there for me when I'm sick, who will I leave my possessions to go to when I'm gone?

For valid people, a connudrum like that is not a thought in their mind because they are in a comfortable position to pass on their legacy to the next generation. You only think about these things when you lack the luxury of romance and love.

johnw2358 · **Joined:** 13 Jul 2012, 01:08 **Posts:** 5

I know people who have been through dozens of relationships over just a couple years. In a way, I'm not jealous at all because they can't possibly be anything meaningful when many only last a couple of weeks. I would want a devoted long term relationship. I just don't see the point in tons of short flings.

But how is it so easy for them and what am I doing wrong? I just don't get it!

Sionis666 · **Posted:** 02 Oct 2012, 20:03

Don´t waste your time & efforts. It´s impossible for a standard guy to understand what LS is.
They have never been on it.... so they can´t understand.

Is very difficult for normal people to feel true empathy for LS guys, buddy - because 90% of them have never been there! Most of people live their sexuality without the troubles we have. :rofl:

Cwl wrote:

normal people just dont understand what its like to be us.

how can we explain ourselves to people? they dont go through what we have to. they cant understand our mindset, the challenges we have to go through.

worst thing i hate is when decent or good looking people complain about their love lives. they dont know how lucky they are.

Chuck Norris · **Posted:** 21 Feb 2013, 20:07

Cwl wrote:

normal people just dont understand what its like to be us.

how can we explain ourselves to people? they dont go through what we have to. they cant understand our mindset, the challenges we have to go through.

worst thing i hate is when decent or good looking people complain about their love lives. they dont know how lucky they are.

The people I know to a large extent understand the issue quite well, when I learned that I was surprised

, especially after readying many times that noncels cannot understand. Possible where I live incel and long dry spells are quite common :shock:

, so many people understand.

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