I'm a 52-y.o. virgin who has been encouraged by my friends (all non-virgins) to go the hooker route. They feel it's my only hope at this point. But I just can't do it. I'm probably still thinking like an 18 y.o., but my pride is too full to accept the (probable) fact that the only way any woman would touch me is if I paid for it. I exercise, eat right, stay in shape - all the things that society tells you to do if you want to attract a woman. But it's never worked out for me. I even had a psychotherapist tell me that getting a hooker wouldn't be a bad idea. Even if I had the money (which I don't), I can't imagine my first and only time occuring because I bought it. Some of you have argued that it's cheaper and less stressful than dating, and you're probably right. But what's missing is the mutual attraction aspect. If a girl was ever turned on by me, and I her, it would be a more sensual, shared experience.
I have nothing against the idea of prostitution between two consenting adults. A friend of mine, who ironically never has trouble attracting women anyway, has used hookers many times in his life. It's easier for him because he can afford it, and he isn't very good at long-term relationships.
Seb, you've often mentioned on this forum how ugly you are, so I'm wondering how you deal with that belief when going to a hooker. If you believe that women find you unattractive, don't you feel that it's a bit of a fraud on a hooker's part to pretend she's attracted to you? I know that's what you're paying her for, but the eyes don't lie. If I ever called a beautiful prostitute, there's no way in hell she would be looking forward to the experience regardless of what I was paying her. Women have never been sexually attracted to me, so going in with that knowledge would automatically devalue the experience. It wouldn't be real. I want a woman who also wants me and actually gets off on the thought of fucking me...someone who might even tell her friends that she met this cool, funny guy who doesn't treat her like shit and actually puts her interests ahead of his own.
You won't get that kind of gratitude from a hooker.
Hi alone99, thanks for your post, and I will try and answer your questions as honestly as possible. Yes, I consider myself ugly and respulsive (I will pm you my latest pic), and the fact that I have to pay for sex, only reinforces that view, because let's be honest here, good looking men who are successful at attracting women don't need to pay for sex (for the most part). I say this, because all the good looking men I know refuse to see a hooker, and for good reason, they don't need to, these good looking men get free sex.
With myself, I did try very hard to establish normal relationships with women, but the never ending stream of self esteem crushing rejections/or friendzoning left me with no other alternative but to see a hooker for sex, it's not something I am proud of, but I am a man with a very powerful sex drive (even at age 44), and I have my needs, and one of them is stick my dick into a nice warm vagina (sorry for the lewdness), and to have a set of female breasts shoved firmly in my mouth. I don't feel the hooker is engaging in any fraud on her part, because both of us know why we are both there, ie, I need sex, she needs to pay her bills /or feed her kids (most sex workers are single mothers), and I am under no illusion the hookers I see are not attracted to me, even though some of them do have orgasms with me (and no they are not faking them, because the hookers are not using any lube, and they are very wet after I have performed oral on them, or I have fucked them).
My only success story to date was with a hooker who let me have a few freebies outside of her work, on 3 of the 4 occasions in her own home, and once outdoors on the beach, so at least for one brief moment a woman did find me attractive. I do call the hookers I see beautiful, firstly because I mean it, and secondly because I value and appreciate female beauty, and ironically enough the hookers I see often don't believe me when I tell them that, but at the same time they do like seeing me, because I am always clean and I treat them with the upmost respect and kindness.
I thoroughly understand and appreciate both your moral and ethical objections to paying for sex, and look I have never advocated the idea that paying hookers is a cure for incel, it's not, it's purely a coping strategy. And of course, like yourself I have always wanted (and still do) a loving, monogamous relationship with just one woman, and paying a hooker, never has, and never will be a substitute for the type of relationship I just mentioned previously.
I didn't choose to be ugly an looking man of Middle Eastern Appearance that women find repulsive, and I didn't choose to be involuntarily celibate/or to live the single life, incel chose me. As for yourself alone99, I feel for you mate, and when I read your posts they almost reduce me to tears, you are a good man and you don't deserve to be alone, but like a hooker I saw last Friday told me "Life is unfair, and we live in a shallow and superfical world". Alone99, if you can ever get yourself to Sydney, Australia one day, I could take you to some great brothels and they are all 100% legal.