Ask a girl out or ask if she has a bf?

Mav998 · **Posted:** 13 Jul 2010, 19:06

I met some girl and I added her to Facebook. She may or may not have a bf but I was just planning to ask her out anyway..if she is responsive to my messages on Facebook or I see her again. I heard that sometimes girls feel a guy is sleazy if he asks if she has a bf..so if I ask her out ..I will get an answer one way or another.

Mav998 · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 00:03

What do you guys think?

ieatboogers · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 00:08

If you can ask her out, you're already halfway to beating LS.

e_i-2 · **Joined:** 04 Jul 2009, 06:38 **Posts:** 5298

Mav998 · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 00:25

e_i-2 wrote:

ieatboogers wrote:

If you can ask her out, you're already halfway to beating LS.

Asking out is a HUGE first step, don't get me wrong - but it's nowhere to 'normal'/'average' person levels when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships.

Yeah, I definitely know that. I've probably dated like 6 or 7 girls and I haven't made that much progress...so I'm trying to be more proactive for sure. If I feel there is even a chance, I will go for it.

obiwan · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 00:31

I recommend just do the asking out. You'll find the boyfriend answer either way.

ieatboogers · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 00:35

e_i-2 wrote:

ieatboogers wrote:

If you can ask her out, you're already halfway to beating LS.

Asking out is a HUGE first step, don't get me wrong - but it's nowhere to 'normal'/'average' person levels when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships.

Agreed. I mention it because being too shy/anxious/nervous to even try is the central pillar of LS (as opposed to incel.) Just so he doesn't put the cart before the horse.

e_i-2 · **Joined:** 04 Jul 2009, 06:38 **Posts:** 5298

paul1984 · **Joined:** 13 Jul 2010, 10:38 **Posts:** 30

Just ask her out... don't ask if she has a boyfriend.. I mean, asking if she has a boyfriend makes her think that YOU would be her boyfriend.. And that's where things may get nasty... She then knows what you're up to and there might be a chance that she starts to mess around with your feelings / intentions...

NBA · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 11:31

I never understood what was so bad about a woman knowing your intentions..... don't they already know what you're up to when you ask them for your number and take them places? If women want to take advantage of a man's attempt to have a good relationship with them, we're better off without them.

paul1984 · **Joined:** 13 Jul 2010, 10:38 **Posts:** 30

Well, let me explain it from my point of view: when I usually ask for a number, i don't have real expectations.. Sure she is nice and all, but I'm just not sure if I want to be her boyfriend (maybe she's thinking the same thing).. I just go on a few dates and see if she's what I want...

Of course... not all girls are going to mess around with your feelings and such

xenos · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 12:58

Usually you can find out if she has a boyfriend after asking her out, depending on her response (with a few exceptions).There is the possibility that she has a boyfriend but will still accept if he is treating her badly or she had enough of him.Sooner or later you will find out.Anyway, ask her out.It's a good way to practice.

darwin · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 15:16

Mav998 wrote:

I met some girl and I added her to Facebook. She may or may not have a bf but I was just planning to ask her out anyway..if she is responsive to my messages on Facebook or I see her again. I heard that sometimes girls feel a guy is sleazy if he asks if she has a bf..so if I ask her out ..I will get an answer one way or another.

if you don't even know her well enough to know if she has a bf or not ... it might put too much pressure
on her if you ask her out on a date

instead ... ask her out to a coffee... on a mini date where there isn't as much pressure and try and
figure out if she has a bf ... you may as well go the whole hog and figure out if she has one from her fb
page and her wall

paul1984 · **Joined:** 13 Jul 2010, 10:38 **Posts:** 30

And remember.... you gotta have game!

Joshua · **Posted:** 14 Jul 2010, 15:26

Go for it Mav. Like Firebird said, you will find out the boyfriend bomb sooner or later.

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