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Ever recovering from loveshyness or involuntary celibacy?


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I'd like to think that I could turn things around for myself and recover, but with the situation that I'm in it seems like a long shot. Delusions of grandeur aside, I think realistically I'm close to being shit out of luck. My almost forceful reclusive nature ain't going to help. Its hard to break through it however after some of the things I've been through. Sometimes I just want to crawl away into a cave away from humanity. Its an uphill battle.


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Struggling101 wrote:
Ever recovering from loveshyness or involuntary celibacy?


I did suffer from love-shyness, which causes Incel. True Incels are not really love-shy.

I am not 100 percent recovered, since I cannot be with a oneitis, but with women I don't
adore on sight, its not an issue at all anymore.

It does require lots of risk taking and learning new skills but its possible. You have to start
believing in your self-worth, and let go of the negativity that has been ingrained in you since
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Well I definitely hope I can recover.


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I recovered from incel.

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just this week I have 3 dates in 3 straight days with 3 different women. in the past it would be more like jerking off to a different woman on the internet each day for 3 straight days, so I've come a long way. still not fully satisfied with the sexual aspect of my life but still better than I used to be. meeting women, making dates and going on dates is a piece of cake for me now, even building romantic/sexual attraction with a woman I do pretty well, just when it actually gets to the sexual part, I still have a few nervous moments but i'm getting better with each woman i'm with.


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I don't know if I ever considered myself love-shy.

Even though I've had a few girlfriends (none for that long though), and a single fuck-buddy, I'm still quite nervous when it comes to making that 1st move. My immediate plan for the future is using Escorts to get over that nervousness, and also to enact some of that list of sexual fantasies I have. All going well, I should be crossing another off the list this weekend.

As for getting a girlfriend, I'm not sure. Problem is I absolutely hate the social scene of pubs/clubs, sometimes I wonder should I persevere with it and endure the shitty music and drunk people, since I have got positive attention from women on the few nights I have gone out recently, but only since I lost significant weight. I've had some success on OkCupid for the last few years, but there really aren't a lot of women active on that in my area. I think I might have a better shot on POF since there are much much more women to message in my area. I'll try it this year at some point. I'll also try adult friend finder probably this year too, I'd like to get another fuck buddy again even only temporarily.

Another thing I may try is a professional match-makers. I like the idea of someone else doing the work to match me up based on similar interests/life goals etc.


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I personally see myself capable of recovering from love-shyness and getting a girlfriend, and I think I am getting somewhere, but considering the place where I live and my personality type, recovering from incel can be a little hard. A few years ago I couldn't talk to people, but now I'm actually doing very well socially and even meeting new girls.

Even if (when) I manage to get a girlfriend, it's unlikely that this will help any with incel, since most girls here won't agree to have sex before marriage. I have said in another thread that some won't even agree to kiss, though I don't know how many such girls there are.

Many guys here still manage to get laid, though as far as I know they know which girls will agree beforehand and talk to them on Facebook (I have heard some of those girls even take payment). I don't know how much this kind of method fits with my personality type.

It's really not easy living in such a small town, in a conservative society. Most guys here use Facebook to get to know new girls, and for a long time I had refused to use this method, but then I decided to try. Most girls don't respond, but it once worked for me with one girl who actually liked me, then we met for the first time at her workplace, her father knew about it and forbid her talking to me (don't get the wrong impression, this is an extreme case).

I personally don't put all the blame on me. I blame also the environment around me. If I lived in, say, the US, I'm sure that by now I would be doing much better, or doing in the first place, in the D/S/R scene.

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Where do you live? I'd rather meet girls who won't have sex before marriage than girls who slept with half of the neighborhood.


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Why not? Fuck the magic eight ball.

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I've never been particularly LS, but my incel has plagued me for 54 years. No woman has ever wanted me, and I don't see that ever changing. Having sex is as big a mystery to me as the origins of the universe. And I'm more likely to discover the latter before losing my virginity.

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