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Author:  Catapault55 [ 31 Mar 2015, 05:29 ]
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Hello everybody. I'm new here. I am a 23 year old man with Asperger's Syndrome who has a girlfriend. I popped in because I think I can help you guys.

My girlfriend is named Emily. She thinks that I am intelligent, mature, creative, strong-willed and empathetic. Let's analyse these words.

When I was a kid, I read books about dinosaurs a whole lot. I am also a university student who has taken several courses on topics such as history, philosophy, geology and psychology. I also participated in lots of online political discussion when I was in my late teens and early twenties. I took my political discussion incredibly seriously and sometimes I put myself through so much strain that I gave myself a headache. I thought really hard when I was choosing my position on every issue and I tore by brain apart thinking of the exact right words to use. I was always smart but I pushed my brain to its limits in order to become as smart as possible and it paid off. Emily, like many girls, is attracted to intelligence.

Emily also says I am mature ... even though I am a 23 year old aspie who still loves Pokémon, can't drive, still lives with his parents, bites his nails and is currently unemployed. She probably thinks I am mature because I know how to keep my emotions under control. I suppose that I learned to control myself when I was a political person. People in the political area naturally learn to stay cool when the debates get hot. My older stepbrother watches Adventure Time and he has had more sexual partners than I can count. One of my best friends is a married man who is older than me and still loves Pokémon. Emily loves My Little Pony. Don't EVER let anyone tell you that you have to give up your favorite TV shows and games in order to be a grown-up. People who think that adults can't watch kid's shows are liars and people who think that an adult can't have an imagination are disgusting bullies.

My strong will and empathy likely came from my political period too. You can learn some impressive people skills from the political arena.

Here's another tip: Don't take it so fast. When I first met Emily, I treated her like she was a male friend. I suspected that she was attracted to me but I still kept her in the friendzone for a year and a half. That's right - Guys can friendzone girls. I did.

After about a year and a half, I started hugging her a bit more. On New Years Eve of 2013/2014, Emily revealed that she wanted to have sex with me but I still took it slow. I didn't kiss her on the lips until Valentine's Day 2014 and we didn't have sex until June later that year. Around that time, she told me that she loved me. Success!

Here's another thing you guys must know: Don't tell women that you have a love-shy.com account. This site is widely regarded as a hate site. There are some things you should never reveal to a woman. Don't tell her if you are into hardcore porn. Don't tell her if you are involved with the Men's Rights Movement or the Manosphere. If you own a copy of The Alphabet of Manliness (like me!) then hide it.

Another thing: Have male friends. When I was in high school, my best friend was a guy named Patrick. He had some emotional problems and sometimes he burst into tears right in front of me but I was a good dude and I comforted him. I think that Patrick gave me enough confidence to talk to girls in high school. I never had a date in high school because I didn't understand women like I do now but I had enough guts to ask girls out because Pat gave me confidence. Pat and I were so close that we were sometimes mistaken for a gay couple but he was just a friend - a great friend. Pat moved to Texas in the summer between grade eleven and grade twelve but I still hang around with other guys a lot. Me and my manfriends love to play video games. I also love to say sexist things when I am around them just because I can.

Even if you don't succeed at scoring with a chick then you will still have male friends and that will still mean something. To this day I still miss Patrick, even when I am with Emily.

Peace out homies.

Author:  Fonduman [ 31 Mar 2015, 15:09 ]
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So is this your first girlfriend?
Also, what do you look like?

Author:  jeje [ 31 Mar 2015, 15:21 ]
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I have no girl to friendzone.

Author:  Catapault55 [ 31 Mar 2015, 19:00 ]
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Yeah, she's my first GF.
She says that she's attracted to my personality, not my looks.

Author:  Chuck Norris [ 01 Apr 2015, 20:30 ]
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Deep respect for me for managing to get into a relationship. I especially noted the parts about patience, before becoming volcel one of my main problems is that I wanted things to become sexual very quickly, women picked up on this and they did not like it. This example is indeed good advice, since I also agree that most women do not like to be viewed/wanted sexually before they want a man to, this I call the false start concept.

Author:  Catapault55 [ 06 Apr 2015, 05:51 ]
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Update: I've noticed that there are some female Love-Shys here too. I might be able to help you too.

I am attracted to women who have a hyper-feminine personality. I like women who are cute. I also like women who have a wild imagination. Not all guys are into that though. Spend time with lots of different guys.

My GF also likes to spend time with her female friends. I'm pretty sure that's good for her mental health.

Author:  nookie monster [ 16 May 2015, 17:20 ]
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Catapault55 wrote:
There are some things you should never reveal to a woman. Don't tell her if you are into hardcore porn. Don't tell her if you are involved with the Men's Rights Movement or the Manosphere. If you own a copy of The Alphabet of Manliness (like me!) then hide it.
You forgot the most important thing: don't tell her your sexual and/or relationship experience is not commensurate with other men your age.

Author:  ukshygirl [ 16 May 2015, 19:49 ]
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Quote:
Don't EVER let anyone tell you that you have to give up your favorite TV shows and games in order to be a grown-up.


I completely agree with you. Being mature isn't about shaming from society to give up things you enjoy as you reached a certain age or got married. For me maturity is more about level headedness or free thinking enough to make personal decisions rather than life scripted ones. I suppose it's a word thrown out there that people have different definitions for. Still, a relationship should allow for freedom of hobbies/choice over restriction.

I like this post anyway and your way of thinking of getting to know each other and value over friendship.

Author:  jeje [ 16 May 2015, 21:13 ]
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To bad it doesn't work IRL 99% of the time.

Author:  Taught [ 16 May 2015, 23:47 ]
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Catapault55 wrote:
Yeah, she's my first GF.
She says that she's attracted to my personality, not my looks.


For real? I couldn't imagine not being attracted to a boyfriend physically. He has to be blazing hot.

Author:  jeje [ 17 May 2015, 05:54 ]
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^It's obviously a troll, why haven't you permanently banned it?

Author:  Catapault55 [ 17 May 2015, 08:37 ]
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Taught wrote:
Catapault55 wrote:
Yeah, she's my first GF.
She says that she's attracted to my personality, not my looks.


For real? I couldn't imagine not being attracted to a boyfriend physically. He has to be blazing hot.

This is why my GF is better than you.

Author:  IceCat7 [ 17 May 2015, 21:00 ]
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Taught wrote:

For real? I couldn't imagine not being attracted to a boyfriend physically. He has to be blazing hot.

this coming from a person who shames guys for seeing hookers

FUCK YOU and FUCK OFF

Author:  ThePlatonicIdeal [ 19 May 2015, 16:18 ]
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Catapault55 wrote:
Yeah, she's my first GF.
She says that she's attracted to my personality, not my looks.


How do you and she compare, looks-wise?

Author:  Edge [ 20 May 2015, 02:58 ]
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Taught wrote:
Catapault55 wrote:
Yeah, she's my first GF.
She says that she's attracted to my personality, not my looks.


For real? I couldn't imagine not being attracted to a boyfriend physically. He has to be blazing hot.

This sounds like sarcasm.

Thanks for sharing your story, Catapult. I never knew your background when you started posting on the open forum, so now I look at you differently, and not in a bad way. If you could elaborate and answer some of the questions asked in this thread, that would be nice. What type of girl is she looks wise compared to you? What is her personality like? Does she have Asperger's as well?

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