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PostPosted: 10 Feb 2017, 21:59 
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I have been on Plenty of fish and ok cupid fir a while not and I am not getting any responses. Even when I message girls they don't message me back, one of them even blocked me.


Perhaps you should post one of your messages here (redacted as required) to get some suggestions.

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Ok, this is my profile, it's not very good,
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I am a quit quiet but I open up to people if I like them.
I am quite creative and I enjoy most forms of art including painting, music and photography. My taste in music is quite eclectic and I like everything from rock to some other things like folk and acoustic. I like history and I enjoy visiting historic locations. I am quite spiritual and I am looking for a quiet, low key person who shares the same interests as me to spend time with, develop a friendship, possibly leading to more.


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The other option may be to simply not answer that question - or does the software insist on answers to everything?

You have to answer, you cant register if you don't. It's the same with age.


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I don't understand it, a few women have liked my picture but they have not contacted me. Women that I have contacted have ignored my messages.


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I'm a 5 and a half foot asian guy, am I pretty much screwed in the online dating universe?
I feel like society often judges asian guys negatively when it comes to dating.
The stereotype: We are too brainy, nerdy, and usually have smaller body frames.


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Kamikaze wrote:
I'm a 5 and a half foot asian guy, am I pretty much screwed in the online dating universe?
I feel like society often judges asian guys negatively when it comes to dating.
The stereotype: We are too brainy, nerdy, and usually have smaller body frames.


To be fair, most guys are screwed in the online dating universe. I'm 6'2, white, large frame, and can't say online dating ever really worked for me lol. I did manage to meet one girl over the course of a few years of trying, but that's a pretty large failure rate.

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zx123 wrote:
I don't understand it, a few women have liked my picture but they have not contacted me. Women that I have contacted have ignored my messages.
Have you tried contacting the women that have liked your picture instead of ones that haven't or were you not attracted to the ones who liked your picture?

Most women (online and offline) are passive and want the guy to take the initiative to pursue no matter how "liberated" a woman claims to be.

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Fonduman wrote:
Kamikaze wrote:
I'm a 5 and a half foot asian guy, am I pretty much screwed in the online dating universe?
I feel like society often judges asian guys negatively when it comes to dating.
The stereotype: We are too brainy, nerdy, and usually have smaller body frames.


To be fair, most guys are screwed in the online dating universe. I'm 6'2, white, large frame, and can't say online dating ever really worked for me lol. I did manage to meet one girl over the course of a few years of trying, but that's a pretty large failure rate.


I feel like women's perceptions are dramatically skewed by internet dating.
Even the average women think they can land the hottest guys, maybe for a one night stand but probably not for anything in the long-term.


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Ok, this is my profile, it's not very good,
Hi,
I am a quit quiet but I open up to people if I like them.
I am quite creative and I enjoy most forms of art including painting, music and photography. My taste in music is quite eclectic and I like everything from rock to some other things like folk and acoustic. I like history and I enjoy visiting historic locations. I am quite spiritual and I am looking for a quiet, low key person who shares the same interests as me to spend time with, develop a friendship, possibly leading to more.

It's not eye catching and is too generic. You need to stand out and be different.

First of all forget introductions like hi and instead start your profile with something eye catching like a statement which could provoke a response such as one of your thoughts.

Also be bold in what you're looking for. If you're looking for dates than state that...never ever mention friendships. You're online dating for dating and not friendship. 99% of couples do not start out as friends.


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I've been single now for a few weeks and now back online dating. I have a few conversations going - but rather messaging women - I find myself more looking at profiles cause they entertain me at how stupid some of them are.


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Thanks for the feedback on my profile.
I don't seem to be having much luck. I have contacted some women who have liked my profile but they didn't respond. There was this one woman, she liked my profile, she looked really nice and we had some things in common but when I contacted her she didn't respond.

When I do contact women directly 90% of the time they don't respond, and when they do they say 'not for me', 'no thanks' or 'sorry your not my type'.

I did read that you are supposed to mention something on he woman's profile or something you have in common but that hasn't worked. When I do that the message just gets ignored.

Maybe I should try more specialist sites?


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This is my new profile,
'I am looking for a fair maiden to take back to my castle. We could wine and dine in fine style while I regale you with tales of my daring exploits and adventures. Or alternatively we could just go to the cinema'.


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I've had enough of online dating,
I just contacted one woman, did everything right, mentioned something on her profile, asked her an open question.
She looked at my profile and then completely ignored me. it just seems like a waste of time.


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This is my new profile,
'I am looking for a fair maiden to take back to my castle. We could wine and dine in fine style while I regale you with tales of my daring exploits and adventures. Or alternatively we could just go to the cinema'.

That's the worst first date idea ever. Reason being you cannot get to know someone in a dark room watching a screen.


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zx123 wrote:
Ok, this is my profile, it's not very good,
Hi,
I am a quit quiet but I open up to people if I like them.
I am quite creative and I enjoy most forms of art including painting, music and photography. My taste in music is quite eclectic and I like everything from rock to some other things like folk and acoustic. I like history and I enjoy visiting historic locations. I am quite spiritual and I am looking for a quiet, low key person who shares the same interests as me to spend time with, develop a friendship, possibly leading to more.


Sorry for not responding sooner - I gave this place a rest for a bit!

I'd definitely be more specific - e.g. "I am particularly fond of Chopin!". Also I would add some humour - e.g. after 'painting' add (I'l paint you if you like).

The word 'spiritual' is also awfully vague - perhaps you might write what exactly you are into.

Don't write " possibly leading to more", put "hopefully leading to more".

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