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Well if MothMilk is to be believed and assuming that Fiora! is pretty honest, then I guess their opinion of me as being "a guy that is interesting but ultimately his nerdy interests and obsessions can be off-putting to most women" is a fair assessment as to how most women must view me. If they were being objective of course.

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Same here. I generally get the "ghost treatment." At the moment, with there being no classes or anything else going on that would constitute a social outlet, my social life is basically non-existent. Come to think of it, I can't even remember the last conversation I had with someone other than family (save for the errant, trivial encounter with someone in church or a store). Even given a social opportunity, I'm more or less invisible to people because of my quiet, passive nature. I distinctly recall an incident that happened to me a few months ago during a friend's birthday party (which in and of itself is a rare event for me; if I go to two such parties in a typical year that's a lot). At one point, my friend tried to introduce me to these two girls he knew from somewhere, but with little success because they were apparently oblivious to my presence, to the point where my friend even tried a second time to get their attention. Even then, the only acknowledgment I ever got from those girls was one of them looking up and giving me a brief, wordless glance like "who the fuck is that guy" and immediately resuming conversation with the other girl as if nothing had happened. Boy, that must have been one interesting conversation, huh? Talk about rude! They could have (and should have) at least said hello to me. Fortunately for me, there were a few other people there I knew so I talked with them and completely ignored those stupid girls for the rest of the party.

yeah they generally dont look towards you,you can sense they look through you as if you are a transparent material or something. So obvious ghost treatment by girls.

I'm fucking 'stealth' me!!!

Apart from when I have to pay bills...

me too im essentially a ghost. most people completely forget that i exist even when im standing right next to them

how about you try asking a simple question. youll find that many people talk there head off. i did

Interesting. The question is "what do you think women think of you?" And quite a lot of people answered as if the question had been: "and what does that spore of self hatred inside you think of you?"

Therein lies one of the problems. In the first lecture of my psychotherapy training, the lecturer did some work on goals and motivation. She needed a volunteer and this lady called Amy volunteered. She wanted to sing at this event she had coming up but she was nervous about the whole thing. And the lecturer took her through the goal and motivation and resources exercises that we would learn to help our clients. And a lot of this was physical and the lecturer joined in with the actions as much as the volunteer did. And through the course of this exercise, Amy became much more confident in herself, she was enjoying herself, experiencing things and her perception, in my mind at least, shifted. I found her sexually attractive. Such is the power of such a process.

Day in, day out, I had the self hatred running the internal dialogue. And yeah, hearing statements inside my head as if they came from the worst kind of bully ever didn't make me feel comfortable in my own skin which messed with my attractiveness.

And that is what I want to get across to every single person on this board: you have a unique and powerful attractiveness. I know it's hard to believe it sometimes. But each one of you has it. It's fluid, relative, subjective, moving and vulnerable and it misses you. It misses you because your energy, time and commitment seems to have been invested in giving strength to the things you then use to beat yourself up with emotionally.

Sometimes it isn't going to work out for a variety of factors. But what is the rush to punish the self when that happens?

I'm a good person, but too weak/nerdy/passive/shy/boring to be considered boyfriend material.

Mostly that in dont exist, but also that im ugly, boring, have no ersonality, uninteresting, not witty and pribably just a creep. So a combination of such. Certainly i dont think ANY woman anywhere thinks or ever could think anything positive of me. If they had they would have shown interest in me by now.

I chose the "I'm an good person, but not boyfriend material." option. I've been told that I had charisma and lots of humour and all but it's not enough it seems, cause I got no confidence with guys also.

I have very divisive looks. It's very much a love it or hate it thing for women. I've got a decent facial structure, yet wear my hair long, which is one source of division, and have a bit of acne marks on my face which is another.

Some women find me attractive, but it's usually before they find out I'm disabled or can't speak much anymore. I think once most women know more about me, they wouldn't look past the laundry list of problems I have.

That I don't exist. I never talk to them so I don't have a clue if they even think anything. The closest was this girl at work who told me that I was crazy (the bitch coundl't explain me why she belived it), but she aslo told me tha for my expression I gave her the impression that I have "mental powers" (WTF?).

I don't exist, because I have almost no contact with people.
When I am in a social situation, I usually remain a ghost or a voice that sometimes says something, which is either ignored, ridiculed, or filed away somewhere. I have no presence to speak of, aside from an unsettling feeling that seems to infect whatever social group I am a part of.
There are few exceptions, but even with family relations are best kept simple and at enough of a distance for our mutual benefit. If there is any overt sign of interest I wouldn't be able to respond to it in good conscience anyway, not at this point in life. Apparently some people find me at least tolerable enough to not mock and degrade on sight, more than I thought would be there. If they have sexual interest in me it is fleeting and not worth fighting for or clinging to.
Being non-existent has its advantages, so after some failed attempts to be more out there or whatever, I realized that a better way is to be the recluse.