e_i-2 wrote:
That's okay . . . it's just the first few posts were kinda 'questionable'
It's takes some humility to take responsibility for love-shy problems, and not only that but to blame no one but yourself. . . it's almost self-shaming and that's something most of us are tired of, the 'shame'. . . Many of us are shamed daily by women or other 'better-off' men and so most of us are on the defensive when it comes to any kinda criticism.
My friends blame me for that... self-hatred. I have pretty much no self-esteem and they say it's my negativity that hinders my success. If I tried harder, maybe I'd be more lucky. But I don't believe that.
I've never really been bullied, and in middle school, hanging out with the unpopular kids (ironically, my two best friends were very popular, but they only hung out with me outside of school), I witnessed a lot of scorn for the "upper-class." And I really never got why. No one was ever mean to us, and we all got along fine during class; everyone was friendly to one another. And I noticed that throughout high school. I don't know, maybe where I live is weird. No one every told us we couldn't hang out with them. None of us tried to hang out with them. Nothing was every said, even implicitly. So I got to thinking that people conform to their niche, and it's nobody's fault but one own. For example, who decides that the popular kids are popular? Do they all of a sudden proclaim themselves superior? No. It's just tacitly understood by
everyone that they're the popular kids. If you're not one, well then you're not one.
If a girl doesn't like me, I don't blame her. I don't blame myself for not liking certain girls. Why should I blame other people? I don't know, that's just the way I grew up. Might've been different for other people here.