Just a little Friday morning humor for you.

or it could just be the "grass is greener" mentality. Better looking guys messaged her and she decided you were not as good as them. Ive had a similar situation happen before where a girl messaged me first, I responded but she never responded back.

Yes that is exactly what I mean.

Read the story a couple of posts up, that is how most interactions are with most girls on these sites. They will initially respond fast then slowly start slipping to the point where they stop responding. You have to get them and fast. Remember most of these girls are talking to MANY other guys so more than likely you aren't even top 5 in her messaging priorities. How do you have a proper conversation with a girl that takes days sometimes even weeks to respond? Some of these girls take so long I forgot I was even talking with with them...and mind you they forget about you within a day.

At one point i was talking to about 5 other girls and started slipping as well with the lower priority ones. Now multiply that a couple of times on the women's side, and you will see why you have to make a good impression quick and get the ball rolling and quick.

not really different from real life eh?

Hmmm I see where you are coming from but there is no way I would be giving my number to someone that quick. Then again I would be lucky to get to the third interaction without it being some sexual comment where I block and delete.

I wonder if online dating is reflective to real life, and I am starting to think it is.

I got this girls facebook the other day and it ended just like how it ends with most of these dating site girls.

you don't react immediatly, there are a million other guys in line to take your place, same with real life.

I get 60 messages (max is 90) in a day in one of the dating site I joined. I read through them but only respond to one that doesn't ask for my messenger right away on the first msg. I hate getting just "Hi and how are you" "give me your messenger" so I think sending long ones has more chances of getting responds but only if its context isn't full of crap.
We exchange messages for like a week then meet up in my choice of place. Once on a first date I could tell right away if the guy deserve a second date.....

true, but Ive written long detailed messages and they still havent responded. So what makes more sense, short generic messages that you can send to a lot of women in a short amount of time, or 2-3 long detailed messages? Obviously, the shorter ones cause the odds are more in your favor.

I hate it when women say that, its so ignorant.

A short message is fine if it has something I can actually respond to in it.

A 'Hi how are you?' message........ really how am I meant to respond?
'fine'.......

and then how are they meant to respond to that?

Ok so I could add the 'and how are you?'......... but it's still a similar result.

Where as something like 'how did you get into.........(pick something from profile) ?' Invites a story and opens up communication straight away.

My thoughts on online dating ...

1. Always fit your profile around the type of person you wish to meet. It's better to attract five messages from suited people who might be a match than 100 for the sake of *many messages* who may write in general but may not be suited.
2. You don't need to write much in an intro "Hi - I like your profile - we have X and Y in common - fancy a chat?" ought to be fine and anything extra they can read from a profile.
3. Never hold back from being who you are in a profile as it's this that will help your kindred spirits find you.
4. Never copy and paste the same message to loads of people.

Would you arrange a meet with the fourth message, if you didn't have to give your number out?

Probably not. I wouldn't feel that I know enough about him to feel comfortable meeting him.
I pretty much feel that if we cant chat for a bit when hiding behind a screen, then how the hell are we going to be able to chat in person?

Your second sentence makes no sense. Online VS in person... you prefer relative anonymity to real contact?

All I can say is that if I hit the 3rd-5th email mark, I'd want to learn about this person in real space. If I propose a coffee meetup and they balk, then I'd feel that's a problem, and I'd drop them like a hot potato. Ditto if they flake on the meeting. (although Rossini's "she flaked, then responded when I re-messaged her a couple weeks later because she didn't remember me" story shows that's not an iron clad idea, maybe. I think he should have followed up instead of blowing up at her )

But anyways. I feel that meeting people is the point of those sites, and if someone couldn't take the teensy-tiny step of a first meet... then obviously there's not enough basic attraction on their part, so why should I bother pursuing it farther?

No I definitely prefer in person interaction, however due to my experiences on dating sites of guys simply wanting to hook up I am not interested in investing the time and effort to go and meet them to find that is all they want.

So yes I want more than a 4 sentence IM conversation before I decide to go and meet them.

Not that that prevents one from still not getting a real impression of a person anyway, hence I am no longer on any dating sites.