I'm not as extreme as some of the other posters here, but I wanted to just warn you that it does sound a bit naive.
I don't blame you for making this positive affirmation.
Just so you know, most of us here are a collection of misfits (mostly guys but a few girls), so approaching a group of misfit guys with all of your positive datable traits like you'd be looking for a date is a bit awkward? [b][b]Also, many here might see a list like you listed as a bit comical or uninformed, by standards of what many women are truly looking for.[/b] [/b]
I might be uninformed, but the truth is, I'm not uninformed. You see, I'm well aware of the tendency of women to admire alpha male traits, but I have no desire to change my traits because I have reason to believe that such a change would leave me worse off.
Many here believe that being a "nice guy, emotional guy, true love seeking guy, or sensitive guy" are actually the opposite of what many women are looking for in a guy, and that social dominance, financial resources, aggression, emotionless strength, and having good looks are paramount. Even to the point where merely reading a list like yours, would likely be an enormous turn off to the vast majority of women. I'm not trying to express hopelessness for you, but I think they are probably right in the majority of cases.
True statement. But I still can't agree with you that just because this affirmation is true, that I should change my attitude. It is still unjustified and absurd to change my attitude for something that has little bearing on the whole quality of my happiness.
You'll have to forgive me though, as your initial post reads a lot like what a clever parody poster or troll might post, based on some of the demographics here? Given people here liking to poke fun at naivety about women around here, and given my throat problem situation (I'm also an artist), it sounds a bit suspect?
If I post my story on other forums and continue making posts that have no evidence that I'm a troll on those forums before
I posted my story on this forum, then it would make sense to conclude that I intend to earn the respect of the members of those forums. Also if I have been a member on those forums for an extended time, then it is beyond a reasonable doubt that I am not a troll as a troll would probably be caught and banned from those forums long ago. I have been a member on those forums for a long time so it is improbable that I'm a troll on those forums and probably this forum. One more thing to note is that if I posted similar thoughts on other websites before I posted on this website, then this story is not constructed for the sole purpose of making fun of this community.
[b]You should stick around however.[/b] If you are a real poster, try to take into account what I just said, as it might help you in communicating here and in avoiding some of the pitfalls of being labeled a troll, alright?
Thechak, I intend to stick around. It's been a while since I've seen this forum. I happened to visit a page of this forum indexed by Google and decided to give this forum another chance.
I will do what I feel is rational and justified.
I cannot go there, and will not go there.
Welcome Tyler, I hope you find some answers here that help you get where you're going. I will be honest with you and say, in my weeklong experience here, it isn't always constructive, some posts can drag you down... but these people seem honest, and insightful. I'm sure you'll find some stuff worthwhile here