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This forum is in bad need of a Facebook-style "like" button.

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Wow. Just wow.


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holy shit... every one of those exercises is a nightmare I can't even imagine.


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Shouldn't this be in the Lighthouse?


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That guy was really brave, it's inspiring. Very impressive.


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I see no reason why I can't give this a try, although it helps to have someone to hold you accountable. Returning adult diapers and small condoms, that's sadistic, but I love it!


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sounds absolutely terrifying to me, but.......probably exactly what i need. Back when I was just in the beginning of college, I just said screw it and started approaching girls out of no where to see if I could get over it. And it did work. I noticed approaching girls and getting rejected just didnt bother me as much anymore.

The problem is you have to keep doing it if you have social anxiety. It can go away, but it takes years, and I only did this for about a month.


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I had bought small condoms once... online.


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These are interesting ideas. I don't think I could do this personally because of it's authoritarian nature. I would likely be too rebellious to follow her orders. If she wanted me to give a Sex Ed class, I'd flip it on it's head into an evolutionary psychology class, or something else I actually believed in as I don't respond well to people giving me orders.

However, some of the general idea of confronting fears is valid. I actually had a specific method as to how I was going to overcome my social anxiety. This was by forcing myself to busk around town endlessly singing my songs until I could sing literally anywhere. My goal was to become a very good musician, being able to play all of my instruments very well, sing very well, and write songs very well, and then simply force myself to play them out there, because the joy in my music could counteract this pain in social phobia.

After I lost my voice and am in constant pain, I honestly don't think it's worth the pain as there is no reward. If I can't sing, if I can't write my songs, if I can't speak it's not worth it to face so much physical and emotional pain being 'out there' in the first place. However, if I could have my voice back today, I would be right back where I was, with the original plan. Not because I'm a therapist's puppet but because that is what I wanted to do with my life, was sing. The cocooning stage, the isolating, all of that I saw as a temporary pit stop that went wrong. Once I was a good enough musician, I simply couldn't keep my music to myself anymore. I would break out of for the sake of my music, if for nothing else.

I do believe it's 'possible' to overcome or at least combat a certain extent of these fears. Not all of them, and you'll likely never be a normal person, but you really have to have a reason why it's going to be worth the mental (or physical) pain. I certainly don't at the moment. I'd rather die than face the pain at the moment, but for people who have more motivations and less punishments, this kind of thing is a good idea.


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This is a great post!


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One cannot argue with facts. And in my case, specifically, it is down to a combination of factors.

Unfortunately, the only 'therapy' that is going to work with me is human intimacy. I can't see how CBT bullshit is going to help.

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