So, this is a guide to prostitutes as the title says, but I can already see you thinking. Prostitution is not a real method of recovery, it's more of a cheap cop out for those who can't get laid and I don't want that. Moreover, there's the idea that love and sex are somehow linked but, let's face it,a plurality of the 21st century populace in the West doesn't think so. So why should we hold ourselves back because of outdated Victorian notions?
First, let's face it, the concept of romantic love is a cultural human construct that doesn't necessarily contribute to interpersonal relations. Love, if anything, is a strong emotion caused by chemical reactions in our brain and it has become a cultural phenomenon to the point that it's considered immoral to have sex outside of romantic relationships by many, which is something that is a hypocrite position since many of those who condemn it do it all the time. They just don't talk about it to avoid being labelled slut (for women) or womanizer (for men, in the negative sense of the word).
Sex is an animalistic drive that has little, if anything, to do with the human built notion of love. I'm pretty sure sex is all about reproduction and that 'love' is just part of the courting ritual. Many here don't want to bother with that ritual as they fail at it (Asperger's and whatnot) so let's just scip it. It's a need we all have that's wired into our brain so let's just give in instead of getting frustrated to the point of rage and (self-)destructive thoughts. We have nothing to lose and much to gain. Now that we've gotten past the notion that love equals sex, we can move on. Monogamy is unnatural anyway.The benefits
That intro brings me to all the benefits of visiting a lady of the night.
First of all, there is no performance pressure whatsoever. Prostitutes are out to pleasure you and not themselves because they want to earn money. Earning money as a prostitute entails getting repeat customers like many other businesses. With any prostitute worth while the customer is king and so they'll aim to please. It won't matter if you, as a virgin, have a little trouble performing as she'll be into anything you want, anything it takes to get you to reach your 'high point', if you will. Anything might be a bit of an overstatement; most likely stuff regarding feces or animals is off limits; however, anyone who just wants heterosexual oral, vaginal or anal sex will be able to get what he want. If you want, you can just lay back and have her satisfy you with a blowjob without having sex. You don't need to feel embarrassed for inexperience. Just relax and enjoy.
Secondly, there is nothing more honest than that half an hour or hour with a prostitute. Let's face it. Both the hooker and the customer got what they expected namely a sexual release totally aimed at the customer himself and money respectively. No one gets lied to and no one gets cheated on which is not something that can always be said of normal relationships which are at least in part built on lies in most cases, or at least aren't as unambiguous.
Thirdly, prostitutes know how to deal with men who don't have experience. They have to deal with such customers all the time, often fathers who take their sons to get deflowered. They know you're nervous as hell and they also know what men like, and with those two combined they know how to get you aroused despite nerves. They don't mind anyway, and the good ones might find it cute.
Fourthly, it's a good way to get some experience. Get a prostitute who is a little older (25+ or so) and just ask her to show you what women generally like in bed. They'll be happy to show you. You'll be able to feel up a woman's body, have her touch you, discover the erogenous zones of both you and her and generally have a magical experience. When you do find a girlfriend you will at least not be clueless on what to do.How to get one
There are websites dedicated to rating prostitutes and brothels, at least in countries where it's legal. You should check those out to begin with to see what women are out there in your vicinity, and also to figure out which ones you'd better avoid (unless you're out for a quick service that in the end isn't really fullfilling).
If prostitution is illegal in your country, then browse local newspapers for adds of massage parlours which are usually just covered up brothels. Escorts can also be found through the right networks (like more expensive hotels who really want to "service" their customers). If this doesn't work, save up money for a cheap vacation to a country where prostitution is legal (that can easily be found on wikipedia).
Avoid street walkers unless you have no other option available because they're more often then not drug addicts who will just suck you off on auto pilot to pay their next fix and who likely have an STD (and no condom in sight). You don't want a girl like that. You'd end up feeling guilty as such a woman may well have been forced into prostitution.You've got one, now what?
The first thing you need to do is to take it easy, seeing how you're going to be nervous as hell considering your inexperience and all. Take one hour or more and not the regular half an hour. Don't be a cheapskate, you'll come to regret it later on. Also, do not masturbate for several days beforehand to make sure you can get it up. Furthermore, drink some alcoholic beverages beforehand as sex may be intimidating, especially if you're a virgin.
Tell the one you've chosen you're a virgin, or at least inexperienced. She won't make any problem out of it as she's dealt with it before. Then have ger give you a massage to help you relax. When you feel ready, initiate foreplay and have her play with your dick a little to make sure it gets/stays erect. Then you can have her satisfy you orally before moving on to the real thing if/when you feel you're ready to do so.
In the end it will demystify the whole concept for you and help you to stop putting women, sex and romance on a pedestal.
Lastly, if anyone gets into your face about the morality of the issue, tell them that it's none of their business firstly. Secondly, there are tons of men doing the same thing, be it with a real hooker or a women who pretends to love a man for money (like party chicks who got pregnant and suddenly settle down for a beta male in their 30s, a man they would never have given a chance otherwise). Thirdly, if women had given us the light of day it wouldn't be necessary. Fourthly, if a woman who likes you finds out and dumps you just because you gave into your needs and released some frustration, then she isn't worthy of you.Addendum
This is an addendum to this post because of Inspector Montalbano. You may well try more mature hookers if you like to since they're less looking for a quick buck and more willing to please, and they are more willing to take the initiative instead of lying there on a bed moaning while you jolt monotonously into her vagina. They're also often less expensive. Older women in general are also less inhibited sexually and will be more tolerant if you want to try anything the younger ones might consider off-limits like anal sex or certain fetishes.
It's a matter of taste of course. I myself would rarely pick a prostitute that's outside the age range of 21-30, but that's just me. And it may also differ per prostitute if she's good or not regardless of age.
You kids have fun