The long of it:
Hola to everyone on the LS forum. I'm a girl interested in someone that may possibly be suffering from LS and I joined to see if some of you can give me advice. I know another girl recently posted something similar and a few people were wondering if she was trolling. I assure you that I am not.
I want to start off by saying that I am no stranger to anxiety- I have OCD and at one point my anxiety was so severe I could not leave my house. I only say this because I want you all to know that I stand in "solidarity" with you guys
......I promise I'll try to make this as short as possible:
I'm 25 yo and interested in someone that is in his early 30s.He works on the same floor as me so I guess we are coworkers but I only see him when we are on the elevator or eating lunch in the common area. I noticed him about 6 months ago and have been crushing on him ever since. At first all we would do was smile and nod at each other until I finally mustered up the courage to ask him out for coffee two weeks ago. When I asked him out on a Thursday he was speechless but then he said yes and mentioned something about not being able to go out that weekend. That following Monday at work I ran into him and when I asked how he was doing he basically stared at me and stuttered. I then smiled at him because he looked nervous and then he just walked away. That night I decided to text him and I asked if he wanted to schedule coffee, his response (3 hours later) was: today has been a really bad day And this week I'm busy with concerts or other things. We can try going out Saturday even though I'm busy that might or maybe Sunday evening. We'll talk soon. Take care.
I took this as a rejection and I replied:I hope things get better. Don't worry about it. Have a good night!
The next day I saw him on the elevator and I tried to act as cool as possible. When I asked him how he was doing he once again stuttered and made this weird chewbacca noise. ( I don't mean that in a rude way btw I just don't know how else to explain it) .
The week went by and I didn't run into him at all. That Sunday I received a text message from him asking if I wanted to meet up for coffee that night. I said yes and we met at a bar instead. The conversation was *awesome* no awkward silences at all. We talked for about two hours and then he invited me out to dinner right after. Dinner again went well. He said the reason he couldn't talk during the week was because his dogs were put down and he was really sad. He also did in fact have concerts three days in a row bc he showed me video. During the date he also mentioned that he was happy I asked him out because he is really shy. Throughout the night he made it a point to lean in a bunch of times, caress my shoulder/touch my arm. All the classical signs that he was flirting. He walked me to the subway station, gave me a hug and told me he had a great night. We were both going in opposite directions so he was basically across the train tracks from me. While we were waiting for our trains he kept on "yelling/talking" to me and smiling/waving. When his train arrived he went to the side facing me and began smiling and waving goodbye from inside. I couldn't help but laugh bc he was just being so adorable and he looked really happy. For the following two days at work he would smile at me and come up to talk to me. I ended up taking three days off from work due to the thanksgiving holiday and so I decided to send him a quick text that Friday morning. All I said was "hey, how was your thanksgiving? I just wanted to say hello
I didn't receive a response until Saturday night. He said he forgot to text me back and that he had a great tgiv, that the turkey he made was delicious. He also asked me how my tgiv was.....I of course was angry that he didn't reply so I was really short and I said "it was great". He never replied back so I left it at that and swore to stop liking him. I saw him on Monday at work and he came up to me and started chatting. (my disappointment went out the window when I saw him again) Throughout the conversation he kept on touching my arm or my shoulder and getting very close. He continued this for the whole week so I of course thought he was flirting. I tend to be very impatient so I decided to ask him out again and that Saturday I texted him this: " hey, I have a question to ask you. Are you interested in going out again. I apologize if I'm being too direct but I had a lot of fun with you when we went out and I want to get to know you better. If you are not interested I totally understand."
Again, NO RESPONSE!!! He replied Tuesday morning and said: " hey, Sorry I didn't text you back Bc my cell died Saturday and it just slipped my mind Sunday. I'm really busy this week with things so we'll talk for next week, okay?"
I was angry because I felt that I put myself out there (through a text, silly I know) and he didn't have the decency to reply. I again swore that I would just stop liking him until I he came up to me that same Tuesday afternoon. Let me tell you that whenever he sees me at work he acts sooooo awkward. It's not like I'm imagining this either because my coworkers have noticed how different he acts with me. He is very social and has a lot of friends both male and female on our floor. With me he looks like he is a deer caught in the headlights. He gets very quiet and stutters or makes those weird chewbacca noises.
Anywho, we ended up seeing each other in the common area the tuesday evening after he sent me the text about being busy. I was eating my food and HE came up to me and just looked sooo scared. I asked him how he was doing and he made a weird chewbacca noise again. He then proceeded to tell me what he did that past weekend and how he thought he was getting sick. ( he volunteered this info. I never asked because I was mad at him). As he was talking to me he looked so nervous he kept on covering his mouth. At one point he started eating his scarf. It was crazy!!!! I wanted to tell him to calm down bc he looked so anxious. I saw him again today and he again approached me in the common area and started chatting with me. I should mention that when I ignore him he makes it a point to stare at me a lot. It's like he gets bothered when I don't say hello.
I'm not sure if you all can see why I am so confused. He doesn't reply in a timely manner to my texts. He doesn't ask me out on a second date. Yet, he stares at me, smiles and approaches me in awkward ways when he sees me. If a guy wasn't interested, wouldn't he STOP trying to pay attention to me?
A few extra info that might be helpful:
According to his online profile which I found, he is self conscious of his extreme body hair (I think it's sooo sexy) and he is very geeky. He plays role playing games and is very skilled at magic the gathering. (google is awesome and I promise im not a creeper). On our date he did mention that he doesn't date at all.The short of it:
Sorry this is so long!!! I just want to know what i should do?! I'm interested and willing to work with his anxiety/shyness if this is what he has. I just don't know how to interpret these mixed signals.
Thanks in advance guys!