If a girl gave you a compliment, how would you react? Whether it be face to face or by private message/email.



The guy I have messaged a few times, I have given him a few compliments but they've been ignored and whatever I asked/mentioned in the rest of the message was answered instead.

Although inwardly dubious, I would be outwardly grateful. I have the strange habit of not letting a compliment go uncomplimented, especially if I see it is deservedly so. I also have a sort of civility that does not let messages (as few of them there may be) that are directed at me go unanswered, compliment or not.

Edit: This is only for messages. I have as of yet to experience a compliment in person from a girl.

Not answering may hint that he may either not be getting your messages (or not seeing them) or he has a cold civility, unless he is also too shy to respond via messages, which is rare indeed.

As for myself I don't take compliments well due to mistreatment growing up, being bullied physically and verbally, they would give me a compliment that inevitably turned out to be a joke and I was the butt of the joke, so to me compliments were always followed by humiliation.
Oh btw works wonders for destroying any self esteem a person had.

Depends on the compliment, and depends on who's giving it. People don't compliment me much, except some of my female friends, so it doesn't really count. A male friend of mine who's very blunt told me once, "you're courageous, you'll go through that", when I was really down. It meant a lot, because he never compliments anyone. It had worth because it was scarce, and coming from someone who doesn't throw compliments around like rice at a wedding.

But the one I can really do without is "You're so funny". I had a lot of them. Translation: welcome to the friendzone, it's warm and cosy there, you'll love it.

For me it does depend a bit on the person giving it and my relationship with them as a person. Even the timing and delivery has a small effect on things. Generally though, as broad as I can give it: if I received a compliment from a girl, I would be quite flattered. I don't often receive compliments so it's hard to give an accurate answer that would, in another reality, have been based on numerous compiments over the years (which hasn't really happened - except from my mum But she's awesome).

Also, the impact from a compliment given in a written medium compared to an oral medium has some relevance. Obviously saying it to their face and smiling (and you would be if you sincerely meant it, am just saying anyway ), has a bigger impact than writing it, *generally* speaking. It could depend on, for example if you've *only* ever talked to said person via written communication.

If it's a girl I secretly like, and *she* doesn't know that, then the compliment can have 10 to 100x the effect.



I think James is fairly correct in this. Not even acknowledging a compliment, or at the least, offering a thanks for it (if it's something that one could be thankful for), seems a bit strange. But at the same time, it doesn't *necessarily* mean a negative reaction, because there is NO reaction at all to it. It could be bad yes, but doesn't mean bad 100% of the time. Maybe he doesn't know how to respond to it, or is just *too* shy to draw attention to the fact you're complimenting him. But yes, even in a written medium when time is on your side, and there's no pressure, it does seem a little odd. ;x If it were me, I know I'd have a bit of time to work out how to frame a response to it, rather than ignore it utterly.

A mystery... ;o

People here are generally pretty transparent about whether or not they enjoy your company, especially if you're talking to them one-on-one (which if they disliked you, they wouldn't even do for the most part). Maybe he just doesn't feel comfortable enough to talk about the complimented points or just isn't comfortable with it in general - or he thinks you're up to something. I think a few people here would definitely fall into those categories.

Any compliment, not just from girls, I simply give a thanks and be humble about it.

I would be estatic, i never get compliments. Im that invisable guy. How can one compliment what one can not see?

the best compliments aren't face to face. they're behind your back... if one person confides in another, "so and so is SUPER HOT!" it's probably sincere. but so and so may never know about it.

If I got a compliment from a girl, I wouldn't take it very seriously. I'd probably feel that she doesn't really mean it and is just trying to be nice. There's not much about me that's worth complimenting, at least not from a girl's point of view.

I think my stance on compliments from girls is rather neutral. I obviously don't read anything into the compliments, I don't even stop to consider if they even apply to me at all (because I would most likely conclude that they don't), but I take the fact that she complimented me as a sign of her being okay with talking to me. If she wasn't, and I kept talking to her anyway and wasting her time, it would be her fault.

Not enough information is being presented by the threadstarter. Would need to know more about the dude and the specific complement to give even a half-assed guess at this.

I'd receive compliments from the grocery store where I live before a woman would compliment me in a sexual way...



In all seriousness, I have been complimented before by the opposite sex, but these were not in a sexual or romantic way...'you're a nice guy'...'you're sweet'...etc.

I know the value of these compliments while they are flattering, I know the translation:

'I like your qualities as a friend, but I would never fuck you.'

embarrassed, yet flattered. i often skip over compliments in the reply, because focusing on me is a little uncomfortable. my default mode is to be detached from myself, view myself like an object from a distance. sure, I can make observations about myself. "hey, i'm acting that way, wonder why that is" kinda thing. when a compliment actually strikes at the bit of me that's floating around making those observations, it feels strange to be acknowledged, and yet I appreciate it immensely, depending on the nature of the compliment, sincerity, who made it, etc. but I wouldn't be as comfortable addressing and responding to the compliment. I usually manage a "thx " these days.

Women usually when I first meet them compliment me on my style. Then it goes "nowhere" and I am "friendzoned" and am called a "sweet guy" or "nice guy"

While the guy who burps the alphabet and makes crude remarks is "dateworthy" or "f*ckworthy"