Two reasons.

1. I asked him why he asked me that question. His reply was, he wanted to see if that was what I wanted. He said, a relationship is the last thing on his mind.
2. He asked me because he was desperate to stop feeling isolated. He wanted us to be more than friends. This way, he will no longer be alone.

i'm leaving this forum. i don't belong here. i feel like an outcast.

thank you for helping me. good luck to you all.

goodbye

I just replied to you in the other thread and now see this:(

Im so sorry you feel like an outcast. I think many of us do here...that is what brings us together.

I do hope you come back. I'm sorry I didn't at least give you my email in case you needed a friend. PM me if you see this and would like to correspond outside the forum. I really do care about your situation.

Was it this disorder your friend had?
if that is so, it might be helpful for you?

i can't see the link as i'm on my xbox using the internet.

my friend has schizo-affective disorder. i have read up a lot about the disorder.

thanks.

I can see the link now. Yes this is the disorder my friend has. Thank you for the link.

I watched the video. Refreshing to see this man doing well in his recovery. The different things that helped - family, friends, etc.

Thank you for posting.

Oh boy. I really need advise.

I went down to put a letter underneath my friend's front door. It was extremely quiet. So I put the letter underneath the front door.

I decided to check my friend's letterbox to see if the gift/card and letter had gone. My friend's letterbox was somehow jammed. I couldn't open it up. It was closed shut so no one could open it up. Three weeks I put his birthday card/gift and a letter to his dad in it. I put in in the letterbox with no problem. Three weeks on and the letterbox is stuck.

I keep thinking what if my friend has stuck his letterbox because of me. Maybe I'm being parnoid. It seems strange it's closed after I put that stuff in it three weeks ago. Surely my friend didn't do it. How else is he going to get his mail?

My friend's letterbox is outside with other people's letterbox. My friend's flat is inside and the letterbox is outside. I tried another letterbox and that was fine.

Is it me?

if I was in his situation, I think I'd secretly enjoy your attention even if I dared not admit it. it sounds like he is that way, in which case it's unlikely he jammed it on purpose. hard to tell exactly what he's thinking. the same action could imply numerous intentions. for example, he could have done it to encourage you to come to the door, which is the opposite of what you're probably thinking.

I'm thinking his currently going through a relapse. His father has been staying with him. When his father is around, it's bad sign. My friend is having a bad time. Usually when he goes through this stage, he pushes anyone wanting to make contact away.

then perhaps he did do it on purpose. But I wouldn't take it personally. when I'm having a bad time, I retreat inwards.

I have just spoken to the neighbour. Here's what he says - Please don't worry yourself about J - he's happy and well. Perhaps more important for you to enjoy the sunshine and look after your own health.

sounds a little dismissive

what makes you say that?

well, every time I try to make a declarative opinion, details concerning the circumstances change. perhaps the lesson here is that if we try to draw conclusions about ambiguous signals, we will probably just end up being wrong and cause more damage than if we hadn't tried to be so assumptive in the first place.

it just sounds like the sort of thing people say to try to get you to avoid a topic.