But what else are you?

Assuming you do not define yourself completely by your inability to date, what else makes you tick?

I love to write lyrics and play guitar. Coming home from work and picking up my guitar is one of the most cathartic experiences I partake in. That ol' Larrivee is my most prized possession. I used to play open mics, but now I find that I am self-conscious of being a drag. I have a similar thing going on around camp-fires. People want me to play, but I don't want to play the sad old songs I know how to play. People want a little life around the camp-fire. Maybe I should learn some Neil Diamond

I love to go off alone into the woods! Especially with a fly-rod. Salmon fishing is very rewarding. Even if you do not catch anything, standing there waist deep in a river on a beautiful morning is reward enough. Here in my remote corner of Canada, I feel safe, but there are places where cougars abound on the west coast (not the human kind)

I have a dream of writing a memoir some day. To expound on my 'philosophy', to describe my inner life. I would like to leave something for my niece and nephew, so that they can come to understand me in ways I never understood my own uncles or grand-parents.

My schadenfreude describes me.

Perhaps at one point I could have defined myself easier with activities. It seems recently my priorities have shifted to investing in people I care about. And maybe that's not completely a bad thing, but I mostly find myself these days not doing much but thinking about it. The new project to understand, to conquer. Thinking is my default mode, but perhaps some balance is called for.
I'm not sure If I can try to use what I do to define myself, but it's simple enough to list what I do. It essentially comprises a number of almost "mini-projects", areas in which I occasionally work on developing proficiency. I play a little golf. About one in five times I can drive a ball 200 yards, the rest of the time it seems to fly sideways and almost kill someone. I do archery in my garden, with my unnecessarily powerful bow that goes through steel. I had a laser phase a while back, spent a summer learning how to build them, safety, general information. I took a photonics module this year in physics which was interesting, learnt a lot more about them. I play bridge, although it's not my favourite game. I'm not great at it, although I haven't decided yet if it's because I need to process all the patterns and learn the strategies, or if it's just an extroverted thinking dominated game. Seems to be, all about planning ahead long term. End up playing with a bunch of TJs who think I'm stupid because that's not my thing. A little poetry. Not recently, seems rarely that I get the urge to make vague thoughts manifest in something more physical and solid, to crystallise. Anti-feminism was a big focus a few months ago, but all the arguments I have been over, all the truth uncovered. It has been understood in its entirety, not much else to say. Feminism is retarded beyond expression, but the average person has no real reason to start asking questions to uncover how stupid it is, so they excused for their ignorance. Weight training. Think I'm seeing a little improvement, not that I'm consistent, or organised, or probably even doing it right, but the genetics seem to be making up for it. Just got a physics degree, always handy. MSc in software development next year. I have a hypochrondria-fuelled ongoing quest for medical knowledge. Not in terms of overly indepth coverage of the functioning of the human body, more like a practical knowledge.

I could probably make it more descriptive and engaging, but I can't be bothered that's the list, if you wanted it.

Cool. Interesting stuff. Sounds like you are a tinkerer. I always envied people who could put together some machine or device from scraps and basic parts.

I have never played bridge, but I play poker once a week - home game. That is interesting, because that can be a game of wills, and very much of "alpha males". But I do pretty well. There is something rewarding about making a big bluff, or having the best hand and someone calls you thinking you are weak.

The anti-feminism thing is interesting. Perhaps an outside observer might look at your personal story and say, "of course he is anti-feminist, he has a strong bias." I don't think I agree with you on this point, but I have not heard your arguments or how you would even define what feminism is. Perhaps now is not the best time to get into it, though.

Also, as someone who in interested (in an amateur way) in physics I must congratulate you on your degree! I graduated with Biochemistry and History degrees, both bachelor degrees and so pretty useless. I went back to school and got a medical lab technology diploma, and that is what I'm working at now. In microbiology. I like it. Sometimes I wish I had tried harder in university. I'd like to be on the front lines, researching, discovering, and all that. But this line of work is still fulfilling for me.

I'm actually terrible at tinkering, but I have it a go. predictably enough, manage to permanently scar my hand with a soldering iron lol.
I'm not sure what bias I have? I'm male? I don't think you've even seen my personal story lol.

Well, I mean, as an 'incel'. I think I know that much, though maybe you no longer are.
A short perusal of some threads around here show a lot of hard, negative attitudes towards females. A lot of pointing the finger of blame at them, etc. So, perhaps it is no surprise to see one saying he is anti-feminist.

that's under the assumption that feminism is beneficial to females and neutral towards males.
I'm not what you may think of a pure-incel. If I am bitter, it is not because all females have thought them too good for me. However, the circumstances surrounding incel itself certainly justify the anger and bitterness that comes out here. If child abuse was legalized, would you not be angry at the constant atrocities that may occur around you in such a system? that isn't an argument for the corrupt nature of the system itself, but an example of how anger and bitterness is not inherently something negative and unwarranted, nor is it obliged to occur as a result of delusion. society convinces us that those who are angry about society are delusional and dangerous, because any organism that survives, will, by a process of elimination, be the organism that had survival strategies in place, such as this.

I agree with you about "the system". It is one that allows people like me to fall through the cracks. I certainly do feel bitterness about the system that under-girds my society. I would have no problem in saying that I have justification for that bitterness.

For example, the "bad boy" fascination among many women makes me bitter indeed! I am not aggressive. I try to be "nice". I avoid conflict, and usually am able to resolve conflict way before any hostilities ensue. That this should somehow count against me really grinds my gears, but I don't blame these women. It seems to be a natural attraction, and maybe there is an evolutionary reason for it. An aggressive, assertive male may be better at providing protection from other aggressive, predatory types. Or something. But, that backfires as we can see from so many cases of domestic abuse amongst these types of matches.

Anyway, yes, fuck the system! See how bad-ass and punk I am?

Actually, it is naturally derived. However, the underlying principle changes the way it manifests depending upon environment. They are attracted to guys that provide the best chance for genetic propagation. In a more traditional society, in which there are systems in place to enforce monogamy and shame promiscuity, the "bad boy" strategy is much less successful, and they aren't attractive. Loyalty etc, are seen as more attractive. Of course, now It's all about the male that's the largest attention whore. And there's also a correlation with stupidity, because instinctively women are aware that they will be more careless with contraception, that they will be the less inhibited, and they will be more likely to thoughtlessly follow and not challenge sexual urges that will lead them to be more promiscuous. In other words, the bad boy is genetically successful, and thus the offspring should also be.
I think I'd be ok with that, if women would just admit it upfront. Instead, guys like us are shamed for "hiding our feelings" (i.e. not wanting to appear outwardly lewd and disrespectful), and told that we're just not "confident" enough. the negative traits of the thug are twisted into something positive. Even being beaten by them can be phrased as just being "passionate" or some crap. I have little sympathy for women who mindlessly follow their "feelings" as though they are self-justifying, then act surprised when they get screwed over by the ridiculously obvious jerk they went after. Sure, they are not obliged to pursue something healthier. To desire a guy that actually cares about them. But, I can certainly point out that such a society that operates like this is sick, and does not have many long term prospects. Reproductive instinct is very powerful. If women find violence attractive, men will be violent to win their approval. Men who work hard and are productive to society will feel spurned and bitter when they find those traits make them a joke to women, and will stop contributing. Collapse is the inevitable result. Fschmidt knows more than me about it, but I believe there are quite a few examples of civilisations in the past that have collapsed for exactly those reasons.
I have found exceptions. Usually the smarter girls that are capable of greater self-awareness and appreciation of aspects beyond lust.

Writing about volcanology and volcanoes + plus climbing them makes me tick. This is my main passion. Without it I can't function normally. I can't dream.

That is pretty gnarly! Have you ever seen an active volcano?

I've been on several active (or should I say dormant) volcanoes so far including Vesuvius and Pico del Teide. I want to witness explosive eruption with lava flows, so my best bet (as I live in Europe) is to see Stromboli on Aeolian Islands, which is active for at least 2500 years and generates some fantastic strombolian explosions. Etna on Sicily is quiet for two months. I am currently saving money for this trip. I enjoy planning and travelling - this helps a lot with depression. I want to go to Iceland and Kamchatka too! Maybe during upcoming years...