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When I go out it is usually to hang out with my friends, all of which are male at the moment. None of them bring girls around, except for a couple of wives. Sometimes we'll go "downtown" but I'm keenly aware that it will be very hard for me to meet someone at a noisy bar.
I think just getting out more would be a big help.
I keep thinking of going out to an open mic or something. I used to play at open mics regularly when I lived in Alberta. Now, for some reason, I've lost my nerve. I tried to drop a hint with a couple of my musically inclined friends to come out with me to one of these things, but I think I'll have to push them harder. In Alberta I had a circle of friends who all played music at open mics. It was fun. Maybe I should have stayed in Alberta!

What are good ways of "getting out more"?
Some ideas I mull over from time to time:
-Frequenting particular coffee shops
-Joining private classes, say in photography or painting or something
-Going to public lectures at the university
-attending after-work outings with coworkers.

I think it would be good to be some place where women would feel comfortable starting a casual conversation with me. It happens every once in a while, but it hasn't happened for a long stretch now. I find that usually once in every 5 years I'll meet someone who seems interested in me and who takes a little initiative. I hope I'm due soon, I'd love another shot!

Though I am very wary indeed of coworkers. What if someone at work did take a shining to me, and I embarrassed myself? Things could get tangley!

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I was thinking of joining a highschool level physics course at community college for lulz. it'd be so ridiculously easy that I could just focus on teh socialingz, and the chicks would dig my flawless marks and apparently working out everything instantly with no effort. I mean, that's how it goes in my mind :rofl: I have no delusions about how it would really go.

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What are good ways of "getting out more"?
Some ideas I mull over from time to time:
-Frequenting particular coffee shops
-Joining private classes, say in photography or painting or something
-Going to public lectures at the university
-attending after-work outings with coworkers.


My city has an astronomy club, which is awesome. I haven't been there in a while because I don't have a car at the moment.
Joining an Improv club or taking improv classes might be fun (I have that on my list of goals).
Writing a few good jokes then going to a stand up comedy club on open mic night would be a great way to build confidence (provided you land your jokes well, lol).
Once every week eat at a new restaurant you've never eaten at before. This would be a great way to explore the city you live in while also meeting new people.


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Yeah, I've been thinking about this a lot myself lately. I want to get out and do something, but I really don't know where to go to meet women. There's a bar right across the street, but I don't really like to drink too much. Also, there's a coffee shop at the end of the block.

I hardly ever go out, and this is definitely part of the reason I don't have a girlfriend, but I don't think it cold possibly be the whole reason. I've got a whole bunch of problems.

Really, though, I need to go out somewhere. Maybe I'll go to the coffee shop tomorrow. That could be interesting.


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I was thinking of joining a highschool level physics course at community college for lulz. it'd be so ridiculously easy that I could just focus on teh socialingz, and the chicks would dig my flawless marks and apparently working out everything instantly with no effort. I mean, that's how it goes in my mind :rofl: I have no delusions about how it would really go.

Box on table. Box is motionless. Mass is X. Gravity is Y. What is normal force? :yawn:

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I was thinking of joining a highschool level physics course at community college for lulz. it'd be so ridiculously easy that I could just focus on teh socialingz, and the chicks would dig my flawless marks and apparently working out everything instantly with no effort. I mean, that's how it goes in my mind :rofl: I have no delusions about how it would really go.

Box on table. Box is motionless. Mass is X. Gravity is Y. What is normal force? :yawn:


dunno what physics they teach at highschools in America lol. that's stuff we learnt around 13. highschool age was things like harmonic motion. still not overly difficult, but some of the problems were tricky enough to be entertaining, even if there wasn't much chance ultimately of getting them wrong.

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You know, I'm back in college (I flunked out years ago, but it's been so impossible for me to find a job I decided I needed to go back and get a degree. Maybe it's foolish, but I feel it's better than doing nothing). I will be required to take a physics class, and I''m sure it will be mind-numblingly easy. But I doubt I'll be able to meet women there.

Since I've gone back to college, I've only taken one class, but I really didn't meet anyone there. I honestly don't know the names of the people who were sitting right next to me. There really isn't much of an opportunity to meet people in college, I don't think.

Of course, the other problem is that now there's a huge age difference between me and the other people in the class.


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There really isn't much of an opportunity to meet people in college, I don't think.
Of course, the other problem is that now there's a huge age difference between me and the other people in the class.


College is probably one of the best places to meet new people. Being a student myself, I find it much easier to talk to college students than just random strangers, because I at least know I'll have a few things in common with the other students.

How big of an age difference? I always hear that younger women love older guys who are like 8, 9, or 10 years older. This might actually be an advantage for you.


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I enjoy open mics and I think they help me in gaining a bit of confidence but the ones I go to don't seem to attract a lot of people so the chances of meeting someone are low in my opinion (perhaps I'm simply going to the wrong open mics)
As far as music goes I quite often think concerts would be good places to meet people but of course nothing ever happens.


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Fonduman wrote:
James_Young wrote:
Fonduman wrote:
I was thinking of joining a highschool level physics course at community college for lulz. it'd be so ridiculously easy that I could just focus on teh socialingz, and the chicks would dig my flawless marks and apparently working out everything instantly with no effort. I mean, that's how it goes in my mind :rofl: I have no delusions about how it would really go.

Box on table. Box is motionless. Mass is X. Gravity is Y. What is normal force? :yawn:


dunno what physics they teach at highschools in America lol. that's stuff we learnt around 13. highschool age was things like harmonic motion. still not overly difficult, but some of the problems were tricky enough to be entertaining, even if there wasn't much chance ultimately of getting them wrong.

High school education is not standardized. Physics, in fact, as a course by itself, could not be taken until one was in high school and at the sophomoric level, though the course was comprehensive (starting with kinematics and ending with modern particle physics). I skipped Pre-AP and went straight to AP (the most advanced approach our shool offered...algebraic approach). It was not until I left and three years later that the school offered a calculus based Physics class. Just whip out a differential equation approach or show the gals a bona fide tensor approach and they will swoon (maybe not exactly from you...)

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How big of an age difference? I always hear that younger women love older guys who are like 8, 9, or 10 years older. This might actually be an advantage for you.


I'm about to turn 31. If it's an advantage, I haven't seen it yet (although I've only taken one class).


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James_Young wrote:
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Fonduman wrote:
I was thinking of joining a highschool level physics course at community college for lulz. it'd be so ridiculously easy that I could just focus on teh socialingz, and the chicks would dig my flawless marks and apparently working out everything instantly with no effort. I mean, that's how it goes in my mind :rofl: I have no delusions about how it would really go.

Box on table. Box is motionless. Mass is X. Gravity is Y. What is normal force? :yawn:


dunno what physics they teach at highschools in America lol. that's stuff we learnt around 13. highschool age was things like harmonic motion. still not overly difficult, but some of the problems were tricky enough to be entertaining, even if there wasn't much chance ultimately of getting them wrong.

High school education is not standardized. Physics, in fact, as a course by itself, could not be taken until one was in high school and at the sophomoric level, though the course was comprehensive (starting with kinematics and ending with modern particle physics). I skipped Pre-AP and went straight to AP (the most advanced approach our shool offered...algebraic approach). It was not until I left and three years later that the school offered a calculus based Physics class. Just whip out a differential equation approach or show the gals a bona fide tensor approach and they will swoon (maybe not exactly from you...)


my school never went as advanced as including calculus in physics, although we did some in maths. actually, electrodynamics in uni taught me a lot about calculus. the idea of summing across infinitesimal elements. example integral of Qds where ds is a line element is the sum of the charge in a line, whereas QdA is the charge in an area where summed. kinda obvious, really, but school was all about passing exams. we were just told to not worry about the stuff on the end of the integral sign :lol: good old flawed education system. teach us integration without telling us what it actually is.

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